She died.

I don't want to go to the funeral. I'm a big latina lesbian, and my whole family is catholic.

they don't know i'm a lesbian. but since i last saw them, i got a new dyky haircut and some lesbian tatoos, and i'm now 25 and they're going to ask why i don't have a boyfriend.

help! save me jebus!

also, what the hell should i wear? i asked my mum if i could wear my pants, but she really wants me to wear a dress. AND i haven't told her i'm a lesbian. this seems like a receipe for success.

Just go to the funeral.

It'd be pretty fucking selfish if you didn't, I think your mother or father will be more upset about the funeral of your grandmother than to care about your "dykey" hair. If they question you, tell them now really isn't the time.

Just wear a dress and deal with it.

If you cared about your grandma go to the funeral, wear something tastefull that you like, and everyone else can have a problem if they want to. It's not about them. If you cared just go and say goodbye and be dignified however that feels for you.

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albert, you are the father

I'm sorry for your loss.

Were you close to her? If you really want to go for her, I'd say just go and screw whatever your family thinks.

And if you want to wear pants, wear them... doesn't matter if your mom has a problem with it, you're 25. She can't tell you how to dress. And its not like wearing pants automatically makes you a lesbian.

its your gramas funeral.....it doesnt matter what orientation you are just go to your fucking grammas funeral

i rly wish you would stop posting. period.

latina dyke or not.

i had a latina dyke moment once.

i almost shaved the back of my head and got a nose ring.

but then i had to go. LOLOLOL.

You really should go to the funeral. If you want to wear pants, you should wear them. I don't think anyone there is going to care about what you're dressed like as long as you're dressed nicely.

oh. i didn't mean to post that.

I'm so sorry but go to the funeral. Otherwise you'll regret it after for years. Who you are isn't important because it's about her life.

fashion trends, political opinions, and personal opinions about lifestyle choices will come and go. but the people who are part of your life (like your grandmother), are forever. so go to the funeral. and if you aren't comfortable being a 'big latina lesbian' in that setting, then don't flaunt that aspect of your personality. just be respectful, wear something you're comfortable in that's also appropriate, and let yourself have the time to think about it and mourn.

plus, anyone who picks a fight or prys about your personal life or shittalks what you're wearing, at a funeral, is a complete loser with their own issues.

do you not want to go to the funeral because you're not affected by the death? or because you're afraid of all the comments/reactions to the way you look and are?

and sorry for your loss.

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I agree. You should go if you want to go. Just wear something that will fly under the radar like black pants and a blouse.

Quit being so fucking selfish. Who gives a fuck if you're a dyke. I think people will be going to the funeral to pay respects to your grandma, not to discuss your sexual preferences.

You should say that you don't have a boyfriend because in prison they don't allow you to fraternise with the guards. And if that should fail you should just say that you once accidentally got your tongue stuck in some random girls crutch and liked it Say you tripped and fell or something.

PS Jebus hates teh gayz.

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no. she costantly said how gay people were ruining the catholic church and how all the lesbians and gays are sending us all to hell

Oh. Well, with that in mind, I doubt I would go if I were in your place... but do whatever you feel is right.

yeah

shivathedestroyer, you're one self-absorbed dyke, haha

wear whatever the hell you want to the funeral, you're twenty five, you're old enough to dress yourself

and if you want to be open and honest with your family, i'd suggest you do that too

(preferrably not at the funeral )

I'd go, preferably in a dress, and then just let them know either before or after and let them deal with it and don't take shit. I know Catholics can be tough with homosexuality. Although I am from a Catholic family with a gay aunt and gay uncle and there's never been an issue. So you never know, they might just accept it, you're family and they're going to have to.

wtf does religious orientation have to do with sexual orientation? I've wondered that for the longest time. People are allowed to have their own beliefs. If they are not, we are all prisoners, followers, just plain minions.

If someone is gonna go into a rant about how 'the bible says homosexuality is a sin.' SAVE IT. The Bible is interpreted by everyone. Nobody who wrote the bible is alive now. There is not a living being to prove anything in the bible actually happened. It's a fucking story that somebody wrote.

Hey, if you're ashamed you're gay. You are ashamed you are gay. If you're not ashamed. Prove it. Where is it written that you have to go to a funeral with a boy/man, you have to wear a dress?? You have to have a boyfriend by a certain age? WHOSE FUCKING BUSINESS IS IT? And is the funeral about the scrutiny of your sexuality or the departure of the beloved?

This is so not a fucking debate anymore. It's a fucking comedy routine.

wtfs being a 'closet dyke' have anything to do with going to a damn church? its a fucking building ffs. maybe if you didn't care what people thought of you, you wouldn't be afraid to step into a church, and perhaps you wouldn't be in the closet.