My husband works with a gay woman who he's been friends with for many years. While on a break, they were all talking about some chick who works at another branch of the company. Something came up that prompted my husband to ask "is she a dyke??" his gay friend just shook her head and hasn't talked to him since.

My husband is worried that he insulted/offended her. Was he way out of line?

absolutley.

i hope there is a lesbian here on this site who can answer this question for you
haha
i would say that "bull dyke" or butch would be offensive
and who knows though if dyke alone is
its probably one of those things
like black people can call each other niggers but its offensive if a white person says it to them
i know someone who works at a gay club and he has said some stuff about the customers there which leads me to belieive that lesbians can be a bit uptight about things
i am sure that the tone the word is said in would make a difference too though it doesn't sound as though he said it in a manner that was reflecting a negative attitude so maybe she is just being touchy or whatever

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should i choose a noble occupation
if i did i'd only show up late and sick
and they would stare at me with hatred
plus my only natural talent's wasted

That's exactly what I said but I honestly don't know, I was just speculating. He feels bad so that's why I'm asking you all.

same thing as faggot