when something someone else does makes you feel a certain way, do you feel your reaction is your responsibility, or theirs? do you tend to wait for them to help you resolve it, or do you do it yourself? do you find you can resolve issues alone if they involve other people?

i take responsibility for other people "making me feel" a certain way.
i've been in lots of therapy and this point is forever being reiterated.

i think it's healthy to think that way, even if it sort of ignores how things really are. does your therapist disagree?

i wish i more often didn't wait for other people or involve them. i'd like to just go 'ok that looks like a personal thing' and fix it.

healthy to think what way?

sorry. healthy to think 'this is on me' about your reaction, even when it's a reaction to something someone else did or said.