ok, so today i went out to lunch with one of my coworkers, who is also a friend i knew before he was hired.

anyway, i didn't really want to go out, as i'm supposed to be doing school work and other ****, and i've spent alot of money this month, and really just... had other **** to do. and i'm really hermit-y right now.

but he kept on about it, so i said i could do a quick lunch.
i distinctly txted "i only have a 20$, can we do smthng cheap/fast?"

when i got in his car, we took off, and a few minutes later i asked why we were on the freeway, and he said "oh, we're going to san francisco", which is a half hour drive...
which he didn't tell me before, because he knew i wouldn't want to go.

we went to a $30 pilates class (mutually agreed upon), then he was like "ok, and now we're going to my favorite restaurant", which turned out to be a really ****ing expensive one, in the same building. it was a small-plates sharing type meal, i ordered 3 things, he ordered like 11, all seafood (none of which, i ate, though he made me try it all). it totaled $160, not counting valet parking.

then he promised we'd go home, but instead we went on a 20 minute detour to the mission, and ended up getting ice cream, and walking around, and he kept pressuring me more and more to go to this bar with him in the castro, and then to go bar-hopping for a while, etc, etc, etc.

i finally broke down and *****ed out, and just said, no, and i wanted to go home. we did. then he was like "so, did you wanna pay me now... or?"

at which point, i offered to go to the bank, but it was already 5.

but now i'm just ****ed.

so, question:

what do i do? cough up the $100+ that'd be my "half" of the day? even though i repeatedly asked to go home and to not spend that much? not give any money? only the 20$ i'd agreed upon earlier? or do i get all *****y and nit picky and say "actually, i was only about 40$ of the lunch, and thus i'm only giving you 50$, deal?

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i am so vain. and yet, so masochistic. how can the two coexist?
-francesca woodman

I've had this happen to me before and I just ended up paying for half. What an inconsiderate wankbag.

i think that's what i'm gonna have to end up doing.

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i am so vain. and yet, so masochistic. how can the two coexist?
-francesca woodman

i would have *****ed about the price of the food at the restaurant as soon as i saw the menu. and he should have offered to pay after you said you only had $20 bucks if he knew he was taking you an expensive place.

this time, offer to pay your part of the bill. if you can't avoid to pay right now, tell him you'll pay at such and such date but only for the food you ordered plus tip.

i don't believe in splitting bills when you've ordered less expensive items, especially drinks i didn't have.

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Wait. He agreed that y'all would go some place v cheap since you had only 20 dollars you were prepared to spend....and then dragged you thru all that? *****-slap that boy! Wtf was he smoking that this is his notion of a cheap evening?
But yeah, GP is right I'm afraid. But whilst you're paying him, also put paid to any ideas of going anywhere w/him that doesn't include you having your own ride home for bailing the **** out.
Sheez. Some of our "friends" will be the death of us, yeah?
xo Chyia