Originally Posted by barkstonwill
Beverly Thrills: I have two questions.
If you had a friend of 15+ years and they said to you "I don't respect you as a person, I pity you"
and you had another friend of 15+ years and they said "You have done nothing with your life. You aren't married. You have no kids. You care nothing about a career"
1. If two lifelong friends said that to you before breaking off all contact with you except when they needed something, what would you think of them?
and considering the way the world is...
2.are they justified in saying such things to another human being?
I know you're not asking me, but I would think the first and second are totally different statements. If a close friend said they pitied me, I'd be hurt, but then a close friend wouldn't put it that way, even if they did pity you. They'd try to put it in a way that would help you, not just make you feel like ****. So if they said #1 to me, I would probably have no interest in being their friend anymore, although since they've known me 15 yrs, I would probably at least glance at my life and see if anything about it engendered pity.
As for the second one, thats easier. Marriage, kids and career do not an important life make. Are you doing what YOU want to do? Are you happy? Do you do anything to better the world? You could be a single childless Walmart employee, but if you spent all your spare time painting, hanging out with friends, and volunteering for mentally ill children's organizations, then I don't think there's anything wrong with your life, and your life is not a failure.