I recently reconnected with one of my old friends from middle school ...and while she was telling me how her life had panned out in the 10 years we had not been in touch, she mentioned that she lived in Reno for a while
&I said "I have friends that live there"

and seriously gave Tigz' irl name

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wouldn't be jfl if I didn't make it about me somehow
Sure. Her disposition here is often imbued with an element of contempt that comes off more like projecting rather than being honest or direct... I feel that she's a lot more kind than she comes across... but maybe she views vulnerability as a weakness. Or maybe she's just a wretched ****. Not claiming to know.
I do not vote her to leave.