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Originally Posted by Georgina Weldon  So, what was your motivation behind it? What were you wanting to accomplish? And, did you accomplish it? |
Well, she got the a branch of the thread shut down, and countless people tried and failed to give her helpful advice, and then more people pointed and laughed as she became a shocking example of batshitcrazy in an area where the bar for that is pretty high. So I think that’s a yes.
Since giving advice to Nina doesn’t work, I think Zach needs some:
Kid, it was a fairly good idea to pretend that your parents called the cops – I can tell that’s what you did, because while people might change their mind about pressing charges when an underage psycho was cyber-stalking their kid,
nobody would change their mind about that and then give the kid permission to stay in contact with her. In fact, just about anybody would take away their kid’s computer access and cell phone, as well as ground the living daylights out of said kid, until they got a better grip on how to intact online safely. So anyway, it wasn’t a bad idea, but what you actually should do is really talk to your parents, because you are in over your goddamned head and there’s no way to know when or if she will fixate her craziness on something else and drop you. You should talk to your parents, and they should contact her mother, ideally with a way to keep her safe should it turn out to be a risk that her mother would hurt her over this (I have no idea how you do that when you aren’t in the same community, but I guess calling her local law enforcement department and explaining the situation is the place to start), but even if they can’t, you are their son and keeping you safe has to be their first priority. If contacting her mother turns out to not be helpful, they should talk to a lawyer about what the exact legal options are. I’m sure at the very least a restraining order could be taken out; although I know they often aren’t worth the paper they’re printed on. But it should be done anyway, just don’t stop looking for other steps to take. Like changing all of your phone numbers and getting them unlisted,
immediately.
If your parents actually did consider and drop the idea of filing charges, and what you did was lie to them about not speaking to her anymore, and then lie to her about being ok with talking occasionally, that was a mistake. Your parents should know if you are still in contact with her, so they can keep you from doing it. That is what parents are there for, to keep you safe when you get into something you can’t handle. You shouldn’t have told her you would still talk to her, even if you weren’t planning on actually doing it, because she is deeply insane, and at this point even if you give her no encouragement, she will still think that if she pushes hard enough, she’ll move to Delaware and you two will live happily ever after. The fact that there is no reasoning with her doesn’t make it a good idea to play along, even if it seems like the easiest thing to do at this point.
Hang up, get offline, get help if you need it, and be realistic about if you need it. Adolescents get in over their heads, it happens, and you shouldn’t be ashamed to bring in an adult when you’re in a situation like this. Nina is considerably beyond ‘troubled teen’ and she will not suddenly see reason the way a normal kid might. It was a mistake to get involved with her, but people make mistakes, and it doesn’t have to ruin your life, so don’t let it.
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