so this guy added me on msn through mygaydar, some 40 year old dude, we were talking and I just flat out asked what was he looking for?? and he was like "a bottom who can take it" and I asked, just that? and he said "just that" and i told him, I'm sorry but I'm looking for more, bye.

So what's the deal with these people?? do they genuinely don't want anything more than a quick **** or they want more but are afraid to get it because of stigma/****phobia or are they just roaming sexual animals like Sharon Stone in Basic Instinct=??

Am I getting a distinct feeling of deju vu here or did I appropriate a response to a similar thread you started about what guys might be looking for on Gaydar about two weeks ago? I'd search for it but have already searched for s'thing else and in what I'm convinced is the beginning of adult A.D.D, I really don't have the patience to wait the 120 seconds to facilitate another search. This isn't me being cranky, these days I find myself screaming at the microwave a la Elizabeth Taylor "can you NOT cook any faster?"

Anyhoo, the response in THAT thread is pretty much applicable here as well.

HCH, are you really in a place to even BE in a relationship right now? Let's review.

- You're unemployed
- broke
- live with your parents
- constantly searching for some medical term to apply to yourself for being "unstable"
- you're needy
- you whine too much
- self absorbed

I would just take the quick ****. Honestly, I'm not sure anyone would want to deal with you in the long-term right now. You really are acting like a 13 year old girl.

but you know I can never win. Nobody wanted to have a relationship when I was a teenager, and no one wanted to have a relationship with me before 2006 when my life was more stable, and no one wants to have a relantionship with me now that my life is a mess, so what gives??

I mean I really don't wanna end up like Barbara Covett in Notes on a Scandal. I really don't.