kesh. You're srs that people are taking umbrage at the personal wishes you expressed?
C'mon, guys, that was the original question posed per the topic title was it not ? Jeesch It's not all that odd imo, or at least used not be: There is a lovely stand of climbing roses, ringed round w/oak, maple, and Live-Oak trees and mountain laurel, in and around one of the lovliest of (& oldest traceable) of my family's burial & memorial/columbariums...It's rather beautiful, very old, and bc it is so and existed since the 1700s when people just buried their loved ones' remains on their own private property, there are still ppl buried there from time to time, or memorial items erected there. All of which now requires huge bureaucracy proving direct descent, & permits & red tape bc of state/county regs blah blah.
Nevermind that we still privately own the entire ( not that it's enormous but still)tract of original land-grant property it's on. I mean dang
Gelfness, a "mizpah" coin is a flat circle or oval, w/a specific Old Testament/Hebrew prayer-blessing, and a commitment in fact, in raised engraving on it. Can be made from any enduring metal -- personally never seen any ostentatious ones bc that's not the point of them; sometimes also has a symbol or personal inscription somewhere
Some Mizpahs are quite old & much treasured fam traditions
(Mizpah = also sometimes called "Jacob's' Blessing", or even "Laban's Blessing" ?? imo that's not too accurate but then I'm a sticker like that )
It's cut in two so that it forms 2 irregularly cut equal & interlocking portions. Each half worn as amulet or as a pendant on chain around neck. Hence, The blessing/prayer/declaration can only be read in full when the two are joined to form the whole of it
If you don't want to look it up I can PM or Rep you what it says
Or DL22 or smbdy could tell you, probably?
OK, so anyway
Lots of ppl btw, who have been cremated, can have the urns w/their *cremains* placed in same grave on top of someone else's casket; again, the regs vary from one local to another
Sorry so long
Chyia, wishing you the best orchestral xo