what do you want to be buried with (pls don't tard this thread up)

[debaser]

i'm sorry orchestral.

to be honest, i am not sure what i'd like to be creamted with me.

[Chyia]

I'm so very sorry for your loss. How extremely sad. Please accept my condolences. <3
And as nearly everyone else said, there is no "correct" prescribed thing to do in cases like this. Do what will give you comfort and ease and meaning, w/the knowledge that she would have probably known immediately why you picked that specific option.

I buried my guy with several very specific things, one very very traditional (Mizpah coin, dating back to our first days of couple-dom & given us as gift by my delighted conspiring bro & his wife.)) and some others possibly a bit outre' sounding to those who wouldn't have known the history. Since they never found out anyway, screw 'em
Trust yourself on this. One suggestion, maybe: If you should decide to leave a letter, a pic, a song, or suchlike -- you may wish to keep an exact copy of it for yourself as well. Sometimes that's comforting

Deepest sympathy
Chyia PS & yeah, that's one of the things that's going to be buried w/me: the other half of the Mizpah coin. I don't care if it's soppy, **** off

[gelflinggirl]

hi chyia, what is a mizpah coin?

[orchestral]

ok. i think i'm just gonna do it then.
but i'm not gonna tell anyone.

i feel weird about it....
like her family/parents will be offended, if they find out i buried a piece of myself down there, too. like i'm ruining the grave? or it's selfish? like they're all thinking "jesus, WE would have liked to have died with her too, but we didn't. and you went and actually put parts of yourself down there!!".

but i'm just going to put it all in an envelope, and seal it.
they won't open it, i hope...

[earthcrosser75]

I'm very sorry for your loss, Orchestral. And I'm glad that you're going ahead with your plan. It doesn't sound at all morbid or selfish to me but you might want to be prepared for somebody in her family opening the letter though considering the state of mind they may well be in after losing a loved one.


I would want to be cremated with meaningful things though. Stuff that ties me with the person leaving it.