have you lost a parent?

misfitcult · #1 11-18-2007, 07:59 PM

was is something like a long drawn out illness?
was it unexpected?
was it horrible and broke your whole world in pieces?
was is wished upon?

are they alive yet gone?

Silly Stanker · #2 11-18-2007, 08:05 PM

both parents. drugs. long time ago though, so it wasn't so obviously painful.
but growing up, i think it weighed heavily on me, in good and bad ways.
but it was especially weird not to have parents when i started elementary school, cause i never really understood "families" in general. which is probably why i'm still kind of a loner. like p.w.

misfitcult · #3 11-18-2007, 08:18 PM

wow thats heavy mr wanker. i couldnt possibly imagine having to go through that. i was so attached to my mom growing up. i hid behind her legs for so long cus i was a shy one. so, you lost both rents pre elementary school, were you in foster care or did you have family to take care of you?
im a loner and i grew up with both parental units at my disposal til i was 15, so i dont thinkthat has much to do with much in terms of being a loner.

sokkar · #4 11-18-2007, 08:25 PM

i lost my mother in 1990, but i was young enough and that's been so long ago that i don't remember it (or her, really, for that matter). i have some photos though. it was completely unexpected - she had an aneurysm. she was 35, i think. i'm not postive.

it never affected me growing up even though the school kept putting me in counseling, but more recently it's started to bother me. i suppose now that i'm older, i wonder how my life would've played out with her present. i'm sure everyone who loses a parent goes through that, but i wonder even more since i have no idea what she was like.

also recently, i found a website called findagrave that (for whatever reason) just happened to have a picture of my mother's headstone. i think it's a bit weird to go around and randomly take pictures of someone's grave, but i enjoyed seeing it again as i haven't visited the cemetery in a long time.

i don't know my father and he wasn't married to my mother so i just pretend/assume he's dead.

misfitcult · #5 11-18-2007, 08:36 PM

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Originally Posted by sokkar

i lost my mother in 1990, but i was young enough and that's been so long ago that i don't remember it (or her, really, for that matter). i have some photos though. it was completely unexpected - she had an aneurysm. she was 35, i think. i'm not postive.

it never affected me growing up even though the school kept putting me in counseling, but more recently it's started to bother me. i suppose now that i'm older, i wonder how my life would've played out with her present. i'm sure everyone who loses a parent goes through that, but i wonder even more since i have no idea what she was like.

also recently, i found a website called findagrave that (for whatever reason) just happened to have a picture of my mother's headstone. i think it's a bit weird to go around and randomly take pictures of someone's grave, but i enjoyed seeing it again as i haven't visited the cemetery in a long time.

i don't know my father and he wasn't married to my mother so i just pretend/assume he's dead.

do you mind if i ask why you think or feel that it didnt effect you? when it happened did you turn it off? was she raising you?