Authenticity verses narcissism

Sophia_ · #1 05-17-2007, 06:02 PM

A new member sent me a private message which brings up some important points. I'd like you all to encourage this person to come out and be authentic themselves here at KR, where wit is often mistaken for sarcasm--and vice versa. New members are welcomed here.

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Are You a Real Person? Are You Authentic?

Hi Sophia,
I just found out about KR yesterday and after perusing a lot of the Spirituality threads, I decided to become a member. I read a lot of the threads you participated in today, my first day of membership. Are there other members out there like you? I am a bit confused as to whether you are a real individual or a composite personality. Does Sophia_ represent a few friends who use the Sophia_ name. The only psychological consistency I could detect in Sophia_ after about 3 hours of reading all the old posts was a common narcissistic theme. You seem so narcissistic, it is almost as though you are trying hard to come off that way. Are you for real. Are you authentic. It would be good for me to know, because quite frankly you are scaring me and keeping me hesitant to participate in the threads. Everyone thinks you are sociopathic and psychotic, but you just seem to be a stereotypical middle class narcissist, plain and simple. I don't think you are dangerous, well maybe you are to your family, but not to we members. Have you considered therapy? If you are a real narcissist and not just pretending to be one, you might benefit with the right therapy, although it is extremely difficult for narcissists to acknowledge they have the condition. You do appear to be in various forms of denial, depending on what personality you are in at the time. Can you enlighten me on this? I contacted Sophia.com college and they are unaware of you and interested in finding out more about you. They advised me they will be monitoring KR to see what you are all about.
Sincerely,
XXXXXX

Lets get real about this topic. Am I authentic? Is anyone here authentic? Should life on KR be literal? What do we gain from authentic self-expression?

VioletPrue · #2 05-17-2007, 06:30 PM

It's funny how someone notices the same things we do in only 3 hours.
And about you being a narcissist:

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Originally Posted by Sophia_

Lets get real about this topic. Am I authentic?

HELLO!

PS:
This may be news to you, but it isn't to most of us.
This isn't political, so you've once again posted in the wrong forum.

Ophiel Ophiuci · #3 05-17-2007, 06:47 PM

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Originally Posted by Sophia_

A new member sent me a private message which brings up some important points. I'd like you all to encourage this person to come out and be authentic themselves here at KR, where wit is often mistaken for sarcasm--and vice versa. New members are welcomed here.

Lets get real about this topic. Am I authentic? Is anyone here authentic? Should life on KR be literal? What do we gain from authentic self-expression?

Authenticity is usually invoked by liars or ironicists. Ironicists are more laudable. Once we are aware of our own foibles in terms of truth, we can know ourselves better. We can't be more than ghosts on-line, but we can still learn how to shuffle the furniture, so to speak.

Sophia_ · #4 05-17-2007, 07:27 PM

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Originally Posted by VioletPrue

It's funny how someone notices the same things we do in only 3 hours.
And about you being a narcissist:

HELLO!

PS:
This may be news to you, but it isn't to most of us.
This isn't political, so you've once again posted in the wrong forum.

i was also questioning whether this person was authentic or an alias. Did you not weigh both possibilities before you posted?

I suppose the moderator can move this thread, but I believe this potential newbee is concerned about being attacked for her opinions--of which most likely would be posted in News and Politics. Issues of censorship are usually politically motivated. This person has so far self-censored, which I believe is the most prudent.

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Originally Posted by Ophiel Ophiuci

Authenticity is usually invoked by liars or ironicists. Ironicists are more laudable. Once we are aware of our own foibles in terms of truth, we can know ourselves better. We can't be more than ghosts on-line, but we can still learn how to shuffle the furniture, so to speak.

We usually learn about our hidden shadow material by two conditions: firstly, those people or situations that cause feelings of repulsion; secondly, those people or situations that cause feelings of attraction.

I've learned about myself here more by those who respond, than by anything they label me. I know myself fairly well--my many events of synchronicity would be indicative of this psychic balance, and my conscious awareness of these events--or so many Ph.d's who've written books about this topic have suggested. I defer to their expertice combined with my personal observations. To be human is to have narcissistic traits. To project them on others is part of a hidden condition that this new member is pointing out.

VioletPrue · #5 05-17-2007, 07:35 PM

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Originally Posted by Sophia_

i was also questioning whether this person was authentic or an alias. Did you not weigh both possibilities before you posted?

No Paladin, I didn't to be honest.

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Originally Posted by Sophia_

I suppose the moderator can move this thread, but I believe this potential newbee is concerned about being attacked for her opinions--of which most likely would be posted in News and Politics. Issues of censorship are usually politically motivated. This person has so far self-censored, which I believe is the most prudent.

No, this person self censored in the sense that she PMed you instead of posting it.
YOU posted it, YOU posted it in the wrong forum.
Don't make this about censorship and being attacked for opinions.
Seriously.
I merely pointed out it was in the wrong forum, don't have a cow.