Because my brother has leaukemia... and because im gay i aint allowed to be a donor for him. Its so unfair

I guess i could lie... I mean ive been tested and im clean...

um yeah.

why can't you just lie?

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i guess i could.. but my brother already told them im gay... It's so unfair.. i mean im clean! I dont have the "gay" lurgy..Plus i dont feel i should have to lie really

you can't be a donor because you're gay?

um, what?!

Cos i've had sex with another man im categorised as HIGH RISK... hence they assume ive got aids/hiv and that id pass it on to my brother... i keep telling them ive been tested and that im clean but to no avail... so my bro is gonna have to wait on a bloody list

wow that is probably one of the most heinous descriminations i've ever heard. i can't believe they get away with doing that to people. i wonder if that's a rule here too. i've never heard anything like that though. can't you get them to test your blood again to prove to them that you're not ill or anything?!

I said that to them but they say its the rules and they cannot accept... yet its perfectly ok for straight people cos they'll take the time to check their blood. It's got me serously baffled.. I looked on the web and the Anthony Nolan trust said they accept gay people now but my bro's hospital wont

That is honestly one of the dumbest rules I have ever heard.

If you have been tested and are clean, what is the fucking problem?

I'm so sorry to hear that your brother is ill, and I wish him and your family a lot of luck.

Do you know approximately how long the list is and were he is on it?

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well i'm no expert but it really sounds like a huge breach of human rights to me. maybe you could change hospitals? or is your brother too sick?

i dont know how long the list is... my bro didnt say... but we're expecting it to be long. Its really upsetting... having him at my niece's christening crying to me about me not being able to help him... was terrible

well i really think you should go to another hospital. what they are trying to do is sick and fucked up.

Is there no way you can be involved in this Anthony Nolan Trust?

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They said i could sign up but they couldnt guarantee id be allocated to my brother which is shit... It really gets to me both this and blood donation. I used to give blood but when i came out as gay they started refusing my blood too. But its ok for a straight man who shags around to go give blood cos they'll test his... its so unfair!

Damn, that is pretty stupid

What an awful situation.

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why?

why didn't he lie?

unless he doesn't believe you don't have the hivvz.

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In hard economic times, everyone is looking to cut down the cost of groceries, so eating my own ejaculate certainly helps. To think, I've been wasting good food in tissues and toilet paper for 20+ years.

Its maddening and saddening at the same time... I feel so useless and once were i never ever complained about my being gay i now hate myself for it

and bro told them cos hes proud of me and didnt think it would be a problem.

because straight people dont have unsafe sex practices and contract hiv?!


thats so fucked up. im sorry to hear that ash. its not right at all.

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thank you.
I cant believe still in this day and age gay people are being discriminated against in such a way... We are always being treated as dirty and the scapegoat for sexually transmitted diseases... it unfair

well he shoulda suspected sthng medical requirement-y about it was up when they asked him.

prolly wasn't just small talk over tea.

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In hard economic times, everyone is looking to cut down the cost of groceries, so eating my own ejaculate certainly helps. To think, I've been wasting good food in tissues and toilet paper for 20+ years.