I need to collectively pick your brains. This isn't sexual tourism as such, but I really would love to know a few things. I identify myself as 99.9% gay if held at gunpoint, but I am insanely curious about the subject of bisexuality. From the Freudian perspective, sexuality is fluid and not fixed, per se. Even though the core elements of sexuality are formed in childhood.

I s'pose what I'm wanting to know is, and I know not everyone is the same, but I'd like to know - do you oscillate towards one gender more than the other? Or does it come down to the "hotness" factor of the person in question? I read the other day that 15% of men who identify as gay still dabble with women.

How do you deal with being bi? Are you in a relationship that allows you to play away to satiate your needs and/or does your partner accomodate it?

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It comes down to hotness for me.

first off, every fag in kr existence is going to jump on me for this one, but i, like most of the internet, don't really care.

Do you oscillate towards one gender more than the other? honestly, no. the attraction towards guys & girls for me are two separate feelings. with guys, its a competition. i can say what i want, do what i want without having to worry about hurting his feelings. kinda like the "friendship set on fire" quote. but with girls, its more of the shes the dame & i'm the man/protector thing. its more nurturing than with a guy--you can't nurture a guy. & they don't ever cross. i never want to protect or stand up for a boyfriend, & i never want to drink three 24 packs & puke down a staircase with a girlfriend. & in that sense, it kinda defines who i date--guys' guys & girlie girls.

Or does it come down to the "hotness" factor of the person in question? well. that too. i don't date the uglies whatsoever. you might have a great personality, but if you're mongin, chances are friendships all your gonna get. & even then, you're lucky.

How do you deal with being bi? quite well. i've played gay, i've played straight, all because of the bi stigma. the biz got it worse than the gays, especially the guys. so i've pretty much said either one or the other towards certain crowds (gay with girls, str88 with guys) so there's no confusion between us. but when it really comes down to it, if i'm interested, i'll go for it, & vice versa, whether it be m/f. but it has to be one or the other. i don't do the trans.

Are you in a relationship that allows you to play away to satiate your needs and/or does your partner accomodate it? relationships/love thing & sexual attraction are really two different ball parks for me. usually when i'm in a relationship, its just me & that person; no one else. i'm territorial, & don't share. & in fact, i think couples who do share aren't really couples at all. i really am a old-fashioned romantic underneath it all, & those couples who have a b/f but fuck every girl on the face of the planet are what strengethen the whlle bi stigma.



round of applause guys; first on-topic post from me since '02!!!

fucking bisexuals

I try to not let genitals define my relationships. Attraction is attraction.