I need to collectively pick your brains. This isn't sexual tourism as such, but I really would love to know a few things. I identify myself as 99.9% gay if held at gunpoint, but I am insanely curious about the subject of bisexuality. From the Freudian perspective, sexuality is fluid and not fixed, per se. Even though the core elements of sexuality are formed in childhood.

I s'pose what I'm wanting to know is, and I know not everyone is the same, but I'd like to know - do you oscillate towards one gender more than the other? Or does it come down to the "hotness" factor of the person in question? I read the other day that 15% of men who identify as gay still dabble with women.

How do you deal with being bi? Are you in a relationship that allows you to play away to satiate your needs and/or does your partner accomodate it?

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It comes down to hotness for me.

first off, every fag in kr existence is going to jump on me for this one, but i, like most of the internet, don't really care.

Do you oscillate towards one gender more than the other? honestly, no. the attraction towards guys & girls for me are two separate feelings. with guys, its a competition. i can say what i want, do what i want without having to worry about hurting his feelings. kinda like the "friendship set on fire" quote. but with girls, its more of the shes the dame & i'm the man/protector thing. its more nurturing than with a guy--you can't nurture a guy. & they don't ever cross. i never want to protect or stand up for a boyfriend, & i never want to drink three 24 packs & puke down a staircase with a girlfriend. & in that sense, it kinda defines who i date--guys' guys & girlie girls.

Or does it come down to the "hotness" factor of the person in question? well. that too. i don't date the uglies whatsoever. you might have a great personality, but if you're mongin, chances are friendships all your gonna get. & even then, you're lucky.

How do you deal with being bi? quite well. i've played gay, i've played straight, all because of the bi stigma. the biz got it worse than the gays, especially the guys. so i've pretty much said either one or the other towards certain crowds (gay with girls, str88 with guys) so there's no confusion between us. but when it really comes down to it, if i'm interested, i'll go for it, & vice versa, whether it be m/f. but it has to be one or the other. i don't do the trans.

Are you in a relationship that allows you to play away to satiate your needs and/or does your partner accomodate it? relationships/love thing & sexual attraction are really two different ball parks for me. usually when i'm in a relationship, its just me & that person; no one else. i'm territorial, & don't share. & in fact, i think couples who do share aren't really couples at all. i really am a old-fashioned romantic underneath it all, & those couples who have a b/f but fuck every girl on the face of the planet are what strengethen the whlle bi stigma.



round of applause guys; first on-topic post from me since '02!!!

fucking bisexuals

I try to not let genitals define my relationships. Attraction is attraction.

yes this is exactly how i see it
that said, i am generally more attracted to men, but if i ever fall in love with a woman then thats fine too

Wow - thanx 4 your input! Although I have an expanse network of friends & acquaintances, no one I personally know identifies as bi, hence me starting this thread.

l'avatar, far from me jumping on you for your reply, I'm actually grateful you appropriated such a well thought out response!

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bi curious is a curiousity.

either you don't like females
or you do.

um, "bye."

musch as i dont like lav, i liked his response. actually i see things very similarly. i dont conciously take on different roles depending on the gender of my partner. i will assume whatever role is needed in that relationship and hope i dont always have to play that one role.

but, im not a guy and you asked for guys. so. you got my response anyway.

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well thank you for not conforming to the homothexual mafia rules of gayness, champers. my pleasure.

sindz.

idk.

you just leave me breatheless sometimes.

I think that guys who claim they're bisexual are just hesitating to fully prance their way out of the closet. Fearing being ostracized by their hetero buddies, yet not willing to forego those shameful fortnight visits to the local bathhouse, they sit on the fence between the two. I mean, does anyone here honestly believe L'avatar will end up with a woman? Maybe as one, but certainly not with one.

As for girls, I think a lot of them play the bi card to give their boyfriend a false hope that he'll come home one day to find her chowing down on her BFF's bajingo.

Leave bisexuality for the porn stars. After all, they're just actors, too.

i believe the thread is wanting to know questions/answers about bisexual males, not about some bitter, high skool victimesque rantings from daddy's little queer about how people like me completely tore apart people like you back in the day & now you're oUt 4 rEvEnGe.

but we have some lovely parting gifts for you, fag#32. thanks for coming down!

Actually, I'm delighted you replied, it's nice getting perspective from unexpected quarters, if you will

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I think telling people you won't take care of men, or that you change your treatment of your partner based on gender, is just a pretentious way of telling people you have gross psychological inability to hold a relationship with said person.

Men obviously like and need someone to take care of them. You just don't know how. And are a relative closetcase like millions of other bisexuals and homosexuals -- and there are plenty of gay guys equally incapable of figuring out how to be in a relationship with a man.

When bi guys talk about not feeling romantic with men, I think it's pathetic. You're just gutless. You can prep all the dumb explanations about sexuality being a continuum or gender divides, but it's just cowardice.

so are you guys just not reading the thread title, or do you truly feel your rah-rah-rah 2¢ is relevant?

i'm gonna take a wild guess & think it's the latter. in, which case, :sad:.

It's posts like that that forced me to call into question your supposed bisexuality. And I think it's fair to say the only thing you tore apart in high school was your own asshole. I was just calling you out for trying to fool people into thinking otherwise. Shame on you.

I'm not bisexual, but I'm always amazed at how certain people get all passionate about it not existing. How can you be sure that it doesn't exist? It just seems very presumptuous to me. How can you possibly know the way a person's mind and psyche operate if you're not them?

bisexuals are the queerest of all, except for maybe bisexuals with a fluid gender

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Queer in what sense?

I generally prefer men but would have sex with a woman, probably just out of desperation.