..ok, maybe not that strong.but like, thinking of being straight makes me feel kinda ill sometimes.

and when i think of certain girls with boys i feel kinda sad, i can't explain it well but ill try..for instance, the girl that i was seeing told me that she prefers boys & it made me feel really sick and sad for her, like she's wasting herself.how could she wanna be with a boy after being with girls?

me and my ex discussed it lots, she feels that women have such a strong connection with eachother that a man can't provide because men & women think so differently.i dunno, i think my view is kinda skewed cuz i've had some bad experiences with men, but am i the only gay person who thinks like this? i don't wanna argue with people i'm just interested to see what you think.

No but it's just like some straight ppl feel ill when they think about gay ppl. Maybe your feelings stem from the fact that you can't bare to think of this girl with a man but she must have stronger feeling for men and maybe it's nothing to do with emotions.
You don't have an intolerance to straight couples do you or your just as bad as someone who's homophobic and i doubt you would find that acceptable.

i think in her case it's just denial tbh, i was just using that as an example
and i don't have an intolerance at all, i'm struggling to explain this and its coming out kinda wrong.
im thinking more of the emotional side of things than sex.like..i feel really sad when i see girls getting treated horribly by male partners who are just interested in sex or whatever, because they could get so much tenderness and affection from women.

As a straight female I don't agree. You can get affection and tenderness from men, if you find the right guy(s) that is, as well as a strong connection. I've felt the strongest 'connection' with an ex actually, stronger than to any female.

But I've never had a relationship with a female, so I can't compare, really.

I'm bi, and I feel really lucky that I am, because I feel like I'd be missing out if I was straight.

But didn't your ex treaty you kinda badly? (Judging by what you have written about her on here). I think anyone can be an asshole, penis or not.

but her ex wasn't abusive or raped her?

i guess you are right though, anyone can be an asshole...

i just think that if you are gay or straight you will never fully understand how anyone would be different? that doesn't mean you don't accept it or that you are discrimminating anybody, you will just never get it.

my ex has drug & mental health problems so that was pretty messy, & the girl i was seeing after her really fucked me about.im not saying that girls aren't assholes at all, girls have upset me much more than boys in my life.

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i can see why straight girls will disagree with me, and i cant argue against it because everyone is different and has different bonds with people, male or female.
but what i was really asking is that if other lesbians/gay men have the same sorta thoughts as me or whether it's just me? i've discussed it with a few gay friends and the general consensus is that they can't see why anyone would want to be straight but thats mainly been talking about sex and i dont know how serious they were.

This isn't necessarily on topic, but as a gay man I find it incredibly difficult most of the time to form an emotional connection to other men. It HAS happened, but it's sort of few and far between. That said, I generally am more inclined to develop an emotional bond with women. It kinda sucks, cause I don't dig their equipment.

More on topic, I think it can be said that gay people are generally more self-aware and have had more battles within themselves as to their place in this world, and are therefor easier to empathize with. Heteros (especially hetero men), not so much. I'm glad that there's a new wave of femininity among straight men, cause the macho guy thing seriously does make me feel ill (as does the girly "I just wanna please mah man" girl thing, to a lesser extent).

Not all men are like that though. It would make anyone sad to see that happening to anyone weather it be in a straight or gay relationship. I don't agree that you could get more emotional support and tenderness from a woman. Just because that is your experience does not mean that most people who are homosexual would agree, as you are homosexual due to bad experiences with men, which i wouldn't think most ppl are homosexual because of.

i am not homosexual due to bad experiences with men.
i always kinda knew & it is certainly not a choice i made.no one chooses to be gay.you just are.

i went off on a tangent when i was talking about support etc..my real aim of this thread was just to find out whether other gay people can see where im coming from or whether its just my personal experiences that make me feel like that.

EDIT: Nevermind.

I'm sorry i misinterpreted this sentence

fair enough, all i meant was that i personally find it kinda difficult to make connections with most men, just because of my circumstances.im not a man hater, i have plenty of boy mates but ive never really had any close male friends.but i know that most people do, which is why my view is skewed.

Also i do believe that some people chose to be gay not everyone who is gay is just like that, in my opinion. I find this situation quite hard to relate to as the thread name is heterophobic

i've never met a gay person who thought that it was a choice.
why would anyone choose something that alienates you from your family & the people around you & makes society look at you like an outcast? i went through hell when i was coming to terms with my sexuality, i can't imagine anybody choosing it on a whim.it doesn't work like that.you don't just pick who you are & aren't attracted to, physically or emotionally.life would be a hell of a lot easier if you could.anyway im going off on a tangent again.

& i figured the thread title would get peoples attention

omg you should go on the Tyra show.


Actually.
I find this really interesting. Keep discussing.
I have no real input

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discolexy thinks I'm heterophobic, but I only hate straight women, so I'm totally not. I think HCH hates straight men. It's just about personalities, I think. Sometimes you just really dislike a particular and prevalent trait because of bad experience with it. Women are really easy to hate if you hang around with straight guys who aren't ugly, because you spend a lot of time just thinking "WHY?!" As in, why are they such cunts to perfectly decent dudes? And I'm sure that lesbos feel the same way about straight dudes. But I don't care, because I'm not a lesbo.