i've never had feelings like this for a woman before, am i gay or bisexual or what??? the idea of being with her as a couple is actually really great!, but it could never happen

So what does this mean? i am really confused, i've been straight for all the 18 years of my life, but now what??
I've been thinking about it a lot, and i think my problems with men and my relationships could be because i am gay, i've never had a relationship with a man longer than a few months, and every time its been pretty uncomfortable.
But i don't have sexual fantasies about women!, my fantasies always involve a man and a women. I am still attracted to a few men, i always thought i was just picky!! maybe not??

HELP
has anyone been through confusion like this!?!?

Maybe you are bisexual. It's not a bad thing either. I actually think if I didn't have my boyfriend I would be seeing woman as well as men. I feel silly to admit this, but i do have fantasys of women. However, you could just be bi-curious? I have a male friend who is. He said it's confusing to know whether he's just curious to experiance another man or if he's actually bisexual. He says he doesn't want to have sex with men and fancies woman but he still gets excited thinking about being with men. It's all very confusing stuff. I can't think of a person who hasn't thought they might be bisexual/ gay before.

I believe no one can tell you what are, you need to find out for yourself. Go a bit wild, experiance a woman ( i know thats easier said that done..) and maybe things may be clearer?

Why could it never happen?
I am a great believer that you can fall in love with anyone i am not really into catagorising people into specific sexualities if you meet a girl and fall in love then your in love with a girl and if you meet an alian and fall in love then your in love
You do not need to be confused if you think about it like that. would it be useful to let her know how you feel?
I am in love with a man and have been in love with him for over a year now and my sexual fantasys are about woman sometimes different things just push your buttons.
I felt like this a long time ago but i just learnt that love is love and sex is sex if your not in love with her then you can have sex with whomever you like but if you are in love go for it. Hopefully this helps...stay happy...do anything you can do to be the happiest you can be

^ your reply actually helped me a little bit too! just the whole 'love is love, sex is sex' part. Thats something bothering me a lot lately. ha thanks.

thanks guys, i am starting uni in september so that will be the perfect time to "experiment" and figure out Who I Am!

I have a crush on a girl named Cindy. I wanna write her a song.

I never even questioned that I was straight (straight-asexual, but that's a different matter! ) until I was 17 and I met this girl at college and was completely infatuated with her. Like, we were friends, I don't mean I was stalking her or anything! We had quite an intense friendship, actually, and ended up going off to uni together in London. Looking back, I want to die when I recall certain things - like the time I pretended to fall asleep on the tube so I could rest my head on her shoulder!! Haha. Cringe. Anyway, the intensity fizzled out - of the crush and then of the friendship, really, and we still see each other every once in a while, but I just file it under One Of Those Things. A crush at age 18 does not a lesbian make! I think that instead of working hard at trying to categorise yourself, you should just let it go a bit, see what happens, try new things if you'd like to, whatever, until it becomes clearer what you "are".

Pff...depends...I haven't met any girls at uni. And do you only want to experiment with girls in general? Not with this particular one? You seem to have forgotten about her a bit in this post.

What is this?? Zeke's sweet side? Not even a single mention of her tits! Could this be...love?

she lives in another country, it would be impossible, i have to forget about her as it could never happen.

Babe, don't freak out about it. You'll work it out soon enough. These things just take a little time that's all. Don't pressure yourself so much about it.

I had THE biggest crush on a gurl that I knew was bi during my A levels. I even got drunk and told her. She was awesome. Nothing happened though and I haven't felt like that about a gurl since. Last I heard she was living happily with her boyfriend in Oz.

Since then I've kissed a few gurls which was always fun especially when it was particularly unexpected or I really shouldn't have been doing it... like when a guy I knew was trying to pull this gurl but we hid outside my room and she kissed me instead hahaha it was so exciting... But I don't get the butterflies for gurls like I do for boys. Either way, you'll work it out. Experiment with things you feel comfortable doing and enjoy your feelings xx

This would be good advice if you spelled girl correctly. Fuck it, it's good advice anyway, but you need to spell it right, you're not 5.

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i had a crush on a girl it was a faze two girls nothing happened and im happy in a relationship with a wonderful man now so anything can happen

Way to disappoint.

i hate confusion

I've had crushes on girl's before but I have absoultely no interest in vagina. I refer to myself as a second base lesbian. Anything further than second base and I revert back to hetero with a quickness.

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ooh, what's a second base lesbian? sounds fun.

Well for heteros, first base is kissing
Second base is under the shirt
Third base is in the pants
And four is all the way, a home run.

Second base lesbian=under the shirt, nothing farther.

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Girl crushes are great. I've had a couple, usually resulting from a really intense friendship. It doesn't mean you're a lesbian, not does it mean you have to sleep with her if you don't want to. And so what if you do? Do you think that would mean there is something wrong with you?