i told my parents i was gay two years ago. and because of that i've thought of myself as being out. but nobody else knows except my gay friends and guys i sleep with.
and it's never something i bring up with my parents.

i've had these straight friends for years, and while i've never come right out and said it, they probably know. i'm fine with them knowing though. i just don't want to make a big production out of announcing it.

but its grandparents, aunts, uncles, siblings, family friends etc. that i'm worried about. i feel like i'll be coming out for the rest of my life.

you'll always be coming out, work, new friends, olde family you've lost touch with...it's a process that never stops but does got much easier with time.

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that's good to hear.

my sister always "forgets" & my mom, every time i bring it up, claims she never knew.

but i thought you were getting married?