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Originally Posted by Ophiel Ophiuci Not exactly. I never had a moment where I thought "Oh! I'm gay!". I've always been aware of what I found attractive, and I guess the only real "question" has been whether to keep an open mind or not. While I try to, experience has led me to work to the assumption that I like boys rather than girls, and I've yet to meet a woman who's given me any reason to doubt that.
We're told that questioning your sexuality is perfectly normal. Did that mean that not questioning your sexuality is abnormal? |
I'm not sure if it's different for gay people...I intuitively feel like it is, since even if you haven't questioned your own sexuality, you've gone against the path of heterosexuality that's been automatically set down for you. To automatically assume heterosexuality in a culture where this preference is the norm is what I find disturbing. I had a phase where I questioned my sexuality, but now I just accept that I don't need to fit into any binary category. I roughly call it bisexuality so as to explain it better, but it isn't, really, because even it includes the prefix "bi" which represents what I'm trying to avoid in the first place.
I don't think many of my friends would admit to questioning their sexualities, perhaps because the teenage phase where everyone makes fun of you for it still hits too close to home and also, they're all very straight (in sexuality & normality terms.) You tend to hear that women are more open about and to this sort of thing, but my experience has been knowing a much higher proportion of gay men than lesbians, or bisexuals of either sex. Well, since going to uni; I didn't know any gay men IRL before that (my school...let's just not talk about that)