can you tell me your experiences with it?
i am currently living with my brother, his wife and two kids while i wait for my USA visa to go through.
let's just say that it isn't the greatest.
they fight constantly...not about money but about chores, time spent with kids, etc.
they never used to be this way before they had children.
they used to be so in love, now i am scared that things might end up in divorce.
my sis-in-law wants them to try counselling, but my brother refuses.
being in this environment is seriously making me re-think wanting to have children of my own.
so for the married/common law people with kids on this board:
did your marriage change after you had children?

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i want to know too

it is scary, isn't it?
all this time i thought that i wanted children.
after being in this environment for a month, i think that i have completely changed my mind.
i am hiding out in my room right now, they just had a massive fight and i just feel awkward now.

i know, im supposed to be getting married in about a year and everyone keeps asking when im having kids. i have to imagine that its sooo much to have to be responsible for another life and keep your marriage happy.
I know so many people having babies and who have had babies and have had such good/bad experiences.
Dont change your mind over a bad couple though, they may have simply grown apart.

yeah, that is what i think as well.
actually, i think that they just got married and had kids all too fast.
they jumped into everything before they really got to know one another.
i think that jeff and i are pretty solid, we know how to communicate with eachother and we respect eachother.
we also know that we aren't ready to have children, heck we may not be ready for another 5 or 6 years.
but that is okay with us.
our parents have already asked when we are gonna start having our own family and it kinda bothers me.
i am just not there yet.
not at all.