my mother has gone so far as to start a box full of baby stuff for me.
oh, did i mention that im fucking 22???
im not letting anyone pressure me, i want to enjoy married life and not have to worry about anything except he and i for a loooong while.
if they rushed into marriage and babies then yeah, thats no good. im young and inexperienced in a lot of ways but even i know that thats a recipe for disaster.

Well I'm not going to lie....children cause more stress, exspecially when kids misbehave/test you. Realize every relationship is going to have it's problem weather it's relationship with the opposite sex or hell even just a regular friendship. The fights are actually healthy it's good to get things out in the open people can't just bottle up their emotions it's unhealthy.
usually after kids both partners usually feel one is taking on the bigger load and the other one isn't hardly helping. And that's probably the case with them.
Do they both work? Does one stay at home?
It is important that they talk about these problems straight up and resolve them.
Children will add more stress BUT children are not a CHORE...EVER! And if they are fighting over who needs to spend time with little suzy then they need to overlook their situation and talk about it. Obviously they aren't talking enough if they are constantly fighting over it all.
My partner and I split the chores, and we each have things we do with the kids. There are times we get fustrated at one another and feel that one is neglecting something we discuss it do something about it. End of story.
But if they think their kids are chores, they really need to sit and evaluate it cause they aren't...you are suppose to love and care for your kids without feeling forced into doing it.
And just because you see someone else struggling doesn't necessarily mean you will. Everyone is different, every relationship is different, it's all about teamwork and being on the same level and communication and being able to work together not against each other and always point fingers.

Yeah the relationship changes for the much worse after kids.

just subscribing. even though i do not plan on having kids i am getting married this fall and yes i am a bit freaked out.

congrats!
what is your wedding date?