Yeah I agree, i've been reading a book called 'the highly sensitive person' and it just brought back my whole childhood. Often kids can be sensitive but fully know how social situations work, they just might prefer their own company and take longer to check out situations before they delve into them. And as someone else said, often once they get older then engage more fully and 'come out of their shell'.

Its a interesting read, as it says often sensitive children can just be a bit overwhelmed by loud noisy situations and prefer to stay with a adult or have playtime on their own.

I'm truly sorry if I said something offensive to you- I absolutely didn't mean it that way, nor did I intend to point out any post of yours personally. Please don't think I have a high and might SAHM attitude- the 2 statements I made were commenting on how I am second-guessing my own mothering decisions. I was truly thrilled to have the choice to stay home with my daughter and I always thought that was the best thing for us- been second guessing that recently, as I see that many of the kids who are in preschool, or who have been in daycare, seem like they will be much more settled and advanced than my daughter and some other kids I know who have stayed home and aren't used to the setting of being in an environment with other kids. I was always happy with my decision, and did not think it was better than the kids who were in daycare, it was just something I enjoyed, being home with her.But like I said, now I do worry that if she's never in any kind of an official preschool setting, she'll be behind in kindergarten, when a lot of the other kids are already used to being in that kind of a setting. I don't think people have to put their kids in preschool to socialize them but in my daughter's case, we don't know many other kids her age, so she's also not in a lot of playgroups or non-preschool social things frequently.

It's not something I'm whining about, it's something I feel nervous that maybe she would have been better off. I'll probably always wonder if I should have done better, or done something differently. I agree with what you've said about playgroups vs. daycare for preschool for socialization. I guess what I didn't say in the proper way is I always told myself kids can get plenty of socialization to get ready for school without daycare, but I worry that my daughter isn't getting it and it's because, maybe, I haven't worked hard enough for her to. We don't know many kids her age, and I haven't made much effort to meet more parents with kids her age etc.

Anyway, I truly apologize if I said something in such a way to be offensive or to be taken personally toward you, not my intention at all. I'm questioning my own self, and no one else.

I do want to mention that most stay at home moms *don't* have any attitude about it, no one feels that it's a grand sacrifice to stay at home for a kid, or anything like that. I don't feel at all as though it's superior to daycare- most kids in daycare seem to learn earlier, to me.(counting, saying the alphabet, and more). A mother who chooses to put her kid in daycare for ANY reason, is no different from me at the end of the day. Had my personal situation been a little different I would easily have put my daughter in daycare without a second thought, though I am glad I did stay home with her.

I notice some moms who do have kids in daycare sometimes say they wish they stayed home, and almost all of the moms I know who are at home with their kids, worry that our kids will somehow be behind or struggle more during their first year of school.

Just wanted to make another short post, apologizing to dirtplotte- never intended for my post to come across that way to her or anyone in particular and it bothers me it offended. I'm sorry.

kissing, im sorry that you felt you had to apologize twelve times to me! i came across harsh because i constantly doubt every decision i make. as soon as i make it.

i mean, what if i had tried harder at being a SAHM during the week and went to every playgroup consistently, what if i never ever had yelled at him or what if i hadnt let him pick his own sugared cereal and now he whines for it constantly, what if i smothered him too much what if i havent given enough of myself? what if he should be in his own bed, have i made him too sensisitve? and if he were sleeping in his own bed, i would be terrified that he would grow up a loner, more so than he already is.

is she your first child? bc seth is mine and i think the first kids have it the worst bc the mommas are so worried that what they are doing isnt good enough.

so thats where my snarky came from. im sensitive. as are you.

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im going to comment on this. have ya been to mothering.com? are you part of an attachment parenting organization in your town?

the most judgemental pieces of work, always looking to see what you feed your kid, how you talk to your kids, how much you work if you work and are you neglecting? did you breastfeed long enough? do you use sposies?

GOOD LORD.

im personally judgemental about breastfeeding. i want women to try their damndest to nurse before they go to formula. i know how hard it is to get a baby to nurse. i had a worst care scenario. preemie who got used to the rubber nipple in hospital AND they feed him fucking formula and discouraged me from breastfeeding because "he is too little"

fuckers.

but i got him to breastfeed after six weeks when i was tearing my hair out and crying multiple times a day. it was really really hard. but worth every bit of pain and hopelessness. because it worked.

i dont expect everyone to try as hard as me, but could ya try at least?

so im judgemental as well.

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