I'm just wanting to get some opinions about breastfeeding and feeling sexy etc.
It's very clear to me that I am not at all ready to be a mother. However, it occassionally crosses my mind that maybe I won;t feel like this forever.
Do you ever just feel like you want your SELF back? I mean, whether you're just breastfeeding or you're in a sexual relationship with someone and breastfeeding at the same time, do you ever just lose your connection with your own breasts? Having so many demands on them...
And do you go back to feeling the same way about your breasts after the child finishes that phase of its life?

Did anyone feel 'gross' about the first time they breast fed?

When I hear stories about children being b/f until they are 2/3/4 I feel physically sick. Esp when they are aggressive about wanting the 'teat'. Is that normal? Why do I feel like that?

you should never feel bad about your teats, there will always be someone who will like them

kthx :ignorefunction:

seth is almost three and still nurses for naptime and bedtime. when he was nursing all the time i felt overwhelmed and frankly didnt want my husband pawing at me. i was sick of my body being used for everyone elose. i felt like i was being used for my body, which i was. it bothered me sometimes

but the actual nursing part is good. the body releases all thhese hormones which make you feel calm and happy and SO CLOSE to your baby, so within five minutes or so of nursing, i was blissed out and ok with being used like that.

being a mother, the whole thing about being a mother is that you are being used for someone else. its hard work all the time. i respect anyone who knows they dont want children. i dont know if you do or not, or if you ever will but dont feel like you have to. its truly only for those who really want to have their alone time cut to zero for at least ten years. and then you gotta prepare for adolescence which i hear is a nightmare.

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I tried breastfeeding my 2 sons, and couldn't feed either of them. I ended up resenting them because I was so sore and felt I was such a let down and bad mother. Other people's opinions really pissed me off, and made me feel alot worse than I needed to.

I'm expecting another son in about 5-6 weeks and will try to breastfeed, but have warned my new partner that I do not need any hassle from him or his family if I am unable to breastfeed and he's cool with that.

I do feel confused about whether I really want to breastfeed or not, because to be honest I love my boobs being played with during foreplay, and selfishly do not want that to stop. I really don't know how I will feel at the time, because there is a part of me who wants to breastfeed but a part of me that doesn't.