to go out and get really fucking drunk
well he hasnt died just yet but he will, very soon
is this a good idea? should i take her out and get drunk with but, but make sure i look after her?
i should i make her stay home?, obviously not at her house becuase everyone will be crying
i think she just wants to mourn without them right now......
i love her so much
what would you do

my grandma just died. i don't think getting drunk will help her in anyway

you're not going to make her feel better. in this situation, i'd listen to what she wants and give it to her.

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yes i was thinking that to, just give her what shes wants and make sure im there for her whens shes hungover or too drunk .. . . .
and im so sorry kerri, i really hope you find your peace with it as soon as you can
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my grandad died in feb and i went out and got really drunk with my cousin and my friend. i did cry (which i do alot when i'm drunk anyway ) but at the same time it was good to not think about anything for awhile.
but then again i'm irish

thank you but i'm fine, she had been very ill for a long time, it's better this way

the irish alwasy know how to do things best

What age is your friend? Though I wouldn't encourage your friend in any way, I agree with discolexy. At this stage, whatever she thinks will make her feel better, even getting drunk, is probably the best therapy. The girl is entitled to a night of fun, to do what she wants. Does she get drunk often? I see no problem whatsoever in giving her a night to drown her sorrows in aolcohol if she's usually reserved. It may help her to get some grief out of her system. Just make sure you're there for her in case something bad happens, to provide a shoulder to lean on, to bring her home, basically to keep an eye on her (but dont spoil her experience). She'll get drunk first. After that, she'll get over her grandfather properly. No biggie.

*lovehearts*, I'm sorry about your grandma. RIP.

we are both 18, which is legal in the uk, she does get drunk quite often, but not too often, i mean we are young so we go out alot! i do think this would help her to be honest, she has been my best friend for years and it seems this is how she deals with majour issues in her life, i think just going out for a few day will really help her get it out of her system

Let her grieve in her own way. If you don't take her out to get drunk she'll probably just drink in her bedroom without you anyway.

I know it's not wise, but getting drunk is exactly what I want to do in horrible situations like that, and I always expect my friends just to do it with me.

In my experience, when you're depressed or upset about something is the worst time to get drunk. I have gotten drunk many times, but it was always when I was happy/partying with my friends. This one time last year I was really pissed and upset over problems I was having with my boyfriend, and I went out and got drunk, and I got really sick and felt like absolute shit. It didn't make me feel any better at all.
If I were you I wouldn't encourage her to get drunk over this.. suggest something else instead.

its theory its a bad idea i know, but like someone else said, if i dont do it and make sure shes ok she may just do it alone and get into loads more trouble..

If she wants to go out and get drunk, I say go with her. Sometimes in horrible situations you just want to reach a drunken oblivion for a while, and it doesn't make you mad or alcoholic or unbalanced, it's just a (very short-term) way of coping.

exactly, if that's what she wants then let her & be there for her if she gets upset
a problem only arises if it becomes a regular thing.