Last august/september, i was having a lot of problems with anger and i would get out of control and hurt myself. i would use anything sharp to scrape myself with, and cut my wrists. however, i only did this a few times and my skin never really completely broke, like i barely bled. like i said, just kind of scraped myself to calm down. so i don't label myself as a cutter because i NEVER was like sobbing with a razorblade. just would pinch myself or scrape myself to calm down and because i felt i deserved it.

i am 100% better now though.

but it is almost a year now and the scars show! for the past 6 months i have been rubbing this scarfade stuff on them and they ARE fading, but they are still noticeable! it does not make sense to me because they aren't even, like, bad cuts, they are just scratches basically but there are marks now. its SO annoying for me to not be able to rest my head on my hand in fear of someone seeing my bare wrist with the scars or being able to go out without bracelets all on my arm. they are improving but it is taking FOREVER, and i don't understand why because i never even really broke my skin, just scrapes.

what i basically want to know is, will they ever fade or do i have to live my life like this from now on? it makes me feel miserable, self harm is THE biggest regret i have ever had.

Scars fading is a very gradual process, as I'm sure you've come to learn. During the first year, your scars will be healing themselves naturally, so I guess now's the time to start treating them. The only thing you can do is to keep using that scarfade. You said yourself it's working. In the meantime, you could use make-up/concealer to cover them.

Be glad that this scarfade stuff is having an effect, even if it's slow. Some scars never go away.

right, and i assumed that, but i once got hit in the face hard and had a big gash and had to get stitches and over time the scar faded away so if THAT scar faded i would expect some scratch marks too fade.

its just hard because i like to wear my wrists bare, i live in miami and its hot so i can't wear long sleeves either. i just hope they fade.

Maybe the skin on the face area is more tolerant to scarring and heals itself quicker. I've had very bad scars on my face that are completely gone now, but I still have some scares on my body from less-severe incidents.

If you really want to wear short sleeves, I suggest covering the scars in concealer after you've applied your scarfade, then wear bangles/bracelets on your wrists?
There are actually some nice light long-sleve tops out there, specialised for summer and made from material such as net. Keep your eyes peeled for them.

I've also heard that onion is good for scar treatment, as it helps boost collagen production.

oh really?

like a real onion, just rubbed on the scar?