Originally Posted by Gaukeley
I agree, on both accounts.
Do you mean the sexual abuse with humiliation or the response of male/female/parents/friends when you told them? Or something in addition?
I mean its kind of both...
it would be humiliating to be a man (or woman) and acknowledge that other men (or women) physically overpowered and sexually molested you/physically abused you against your will.
It would also be humiliating to have to reveal that abuse to your parents even more so if it was very perverse or contrary to their values. and then third level of humiliation would come if they didn't believe that what you were telling them was true and or ridiculed you for it.
I mean to be raped/molested/abused etc is basically to prove that you can't defend yourself against an attacker or authoritarian personality. and if it involves some kind of "out of the mainstream" sexual experience, that would only make it that much worse.
I actually know a pro athlete (personally) who was molested by a female as an early teen. He felt shame about it for a long time.