I like to think of myself as a giver.
Though I wish that you still didn't see it as a big deal and Orchestral did see it as a big deal, because it's kind of a big ****ing deal. I mean, it's not exactly exciting and revelatory news. Your parents are mortal. ****ing duh. But there's a difference between "My parents are mortal" and "Holy ****, my mother has begun the process of losing most of what makes her a ****ing human being and we are all going to have to deal with what is left, possibly for decades." The latter being kind of a big ****ing deal.
I think a therapist is almost always a great plan. You just have to find one that you can vibe with. When I start looking for a therapist, I go through them like tissues until I find someone that actually works for me and who I know will be able to help me get to the core of my issues while giving me room to be the person that I want to be without judgment. It's a really fine line, obvs, because you also can't get someone who just doesn't give a **** or engage you personally, which is probably the only thing worse than super judgmental ****y therapist.
I don't know why I am so opinions about this, so anyway.
****phobia: The fear that a man will treat you the way that you treat women.