I'm posting this in MH because I'm feeling weird and I'm not entirely sure I can deal with being sassed about this.

I'm pregnant. Last month I had a reckless fortnight of doing pretty much nothing but drinking and sleeping, and wound up with my on-off ****buddy and didn't ****ing make him wear a condom. I calculated my ovulation dates and figured we were safe, especially after I realised I was 3 days early in my sums and would be ovulating later than I thought originally, but I guess not. After a week and a half I started feeling a bit pre-menstrual in my lower belly, but figured I was just being paranoid and not to worry about it until I actually missed a period. Two days ago, four days after my period was due, I had to go get a prescription and while I was there I ended up just asking for a pregnancy test on the spot. Two lines came up almost straight away.
30 minutes later we'd done all of the referral forms and called the clinic (which is in the next town). I've never had any conflict about what I'd do if I got pregnant at this stage in my life (no money, no stability, still in uni, medicated to the eyeballs), but it's taking a while to sink in anyway and there's another 3 weeks to go before it's done.

I have some fantastically supportive friends, of those I've told. I just need to hear from people who've been there, or mama figures like Geek. I absolutely can't tell my own mother, and if my father found out it would be dreadful. I'm also somewhat scared of my new housemates finding out because one of them is a pro-life born again Christian.

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If you're going to abort, do it now, before the procedure needed becomes more invasive. I don't know you but I say don't do the baby thing, it sounds like a really bad idea.

I've never wanted a baby.

I'm having it done when I'll be around 8 weeks. Pills, not vacuum. My friend said I should get a vacuum one under anaesthetic (she had it that way) as it's less traumatic, but I get really squicked out by medical stuff. I would rather have one like a bad bad period.

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Is your on off **** buddy a bit of a dick? He should also think about protection, should he not?

No reason to tell your family at all.

Hope you are OK Amity.

Your parents should be supportive of you whether you get it aborted or not. Its hard enough having to make the decision between being a mother and not being a mother without the criticism of people who actually do have the financial stability to care for a child (since they did it for you for 18 years haha). A parent should never criticize a child in crisis. They should try to help resolve it.

Life is hard enough with a support system. Without one, its practically impossible to turn out ok. and even people with great support systems turn into ******bags.

I think you should tell the on off again lover about this. I think if you tell him that you were pregnant and just aborted it without even mentioning it..that's not really going to send the message that he is all that important to you as a person in any context.