Originally Posted by ThePrude
I remember people like that in school - they'd totally stress me out because I'd be happy with my B+ or A-, and they'd make me feel like it was the end of the world to get a "****ty" mark like that.
And come to think of it, the biggest culprit was this Korean girl who everyone hated but I was sort of friends with. She even added me on facebook.
it has more to do with the parents then the kids?
the kids don't know any better
i mean i always thought As of any sort were good
and Bs were fine
i literally in the 4th grade came home from school one day and had not thought much of my straight A report card because its what i always got
my friend was beside herself with awe at my As and was very excited about her As and Bs because she was going to get some $ for the good grades
so then i realised hey wow that would be cool to get a bit of $ for my straight As which were the best grades out of everyone i know
well so i showed my mom was card and mentioned about my friend and about how my grades were all As and what did she think of that idea
and well basically she got really ****ed
and then said nothing really
and i asked why she was mad
and then she said she was dissapointed in me
i asked why
and she said to me
"why is this one an A-?"
so i pretty much spiralled into depression from that point on
mind you i was a very young-minded, innocent, non manipulative type of child
and i know now my mom may have not had the $
but i think saying that would have been a better route for her to be honest and tell me that than telling me that i was disappointing becuase i was not perfect
and that interaction right there defines my life, my childhood, my interactions before and since w. my mother
it took me a long time to realise that everyone has thier own strengths and weaknesses and no one can do everything well etc
i still have a very hard time when i am unable to do something, when it is not in my capacity for whatever reason
that was tmi
i am not azn