me too, Cala....everything you just said here. In fact, i just got done reading up on Sociopaths/Antisocial Personality Disorder after a really awful incident with them this weekend because it's the only way I can understand what my sister and my stepmother are and why they get away with the **** they have done and why i was the one they chose and still choose me as their "target" as it were.

But yes Champers, I have cut those toxic, abusive people from my life. I did all I could to salvage that rotting, ugly, sinking ship, but I finally realized during the last time I tried to sort things out with my sister, that i was the only human being in the room. I was finished being the whipping boy for them. So I told them so. and i was free. i feel so much better and more like my own person.

it was really weird to log onto KR and BAM!! the very topic I was dealing with irl right there. Good one, Champs....most excellent my friend.

i've put my family on silent mode on my cell as it doesn't block
i have the ringer on my landline shut off
for a month now

when external forces cause you chaos and sick
there has to be a buffer

i have full control of my life
(well, you know...)
i pick and choose my ****
noone else

My dad and his brother don't really talk.

That's because my dad is a drunk pot head and my uncle is some "man of god" who thinks he is better than my father and our family.

He hasn't ever called really, we just see him randomly at family events. A few months ago was the first time he's called in years but didn't ask to speak to my dad, he talked to my mom and tried to convince her to get to whole family to go to Montreal for his, "I'm a man of god!" ceremony.

No one went.

i've cut off contact with both of my aunts as a result of things that were said/done after my dad died. one of them is the lesser evil of the two. i just don't have time for people who are a) two faced liars or b) know-it-all's who are the authority on things they have no concept of. it makes things like holidays awkward and it sucks that in one case it has caused the relationship between my uncle and cousins to be strained but i honestly don't need people like that in my life, nor do i need to be miserable just because someone is my "family."

i dident talk to my dad for about 8 years, when nick was born i got a gift out of the blue from him and then about a month later he called but i dident ancer the phone for the first few times and then slowy i started talking to him and then like 8 months ago my husband, the boys and i went out to ca to see him for the first time. the last time i seen him before that i was 15 so it was ten years of not seeing eachother