My new boyfriend is a bit of a pothead. He does some every day, how much, i'm not really sure of. if he's at my place he rolls a joint. If he's at his house, where his mum is also addicted, it's a lot more. But it's a little more hidden as they go into the spare room and shut the door, have a cone, maybe two - I don't know because I don't go in there usually and I try to refrain from asking a million questions about it.

The thing is, I don't smoke it as a habit, but since being with him I have done it a bit though, whenever I get just slightly stoned, I'm okay.. I don't mind it, but I completely am unaware as to what is going on around me, i'm smashed. I'm not in the here and now reality.
When I get *REALLY* stoned - as in if I have a cone(bong), rather than a joint, it really hits me, and I absolutely hate it and wish I could be straight rightaway, I can't handle not being in control I guess..

So my question is, the thing that irks me about him smoking it, is that he will smoke it when he's with me, ... is reality that shit that he needs to be wasted to enjoy time with me?

I find it offensive that I'm straight and he's not, when spending time with him when I'm straight is good enough for me - why is it not good enough for him?

I got very offended the other night when we were in the middle of dinner (in front of the telly mind you) watching a dvd with a scotch & coke, and he got up to go smoke his pipe and then came back.

I mean... was he not distracted enough by umm i don't know, the food and the tv and the drink that he had, to go get a little stoned before he could finish his meal?

I try to compare it to me being drunk or slightly tipsy every time i'm with him. sure it's okay on a few occasions, but all the time is a bit much. I wouldn't remember what we're talking about all the time & in my opinion i wouldn't be spending 'quality' time, it would all be a blur.

I am looking for some advice from both sides of the situation. I haven't made a big deal out of it but it's starting to get to me so I need to work out how I feel about this before I decide to say anything.

If you're that bothered by it, then I suggest that maybe he is not the right guy for you?

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Is he really young? It could be a phase. Otherwise he's probably just a tool.

Get rid of him. Hang out with people that don't set off tiny alarms in you.

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gonna get my walkie talkie, and some mustard and some mayonnaise, and a mermaid, and some macaroni, bricks, and some telephone wires, and phone machines

well if he was like this when you started going out with him, surely you knew this?

i dont know, i doubt i could be with someone who smoked weed every day if they acted like that, it would annoy me too much. = not worth the hassle and waste of time getting annoyed/upset.

maybe say something to him about it, however if he likes it and has always been like this then perhaps he won't change. but you never know, he might. say something