Just curious to see what people think of their friends or the people they hang around with. I feel lately that I haven't really got any proper friends and my so-called friends are just so self absorbed. I've taken a back seat from the social scene I used to be part of through my own choice due to spending so much time with my boyfriend. Things arent really going too well between us and I'd quite like to split up with him. The thing that's holding me back is the whole social side of things. I dont particularly want to hang about with these people again, stay out all night and get wrecked. I spent a big part of my life doing that but now I want a bit more from life. They're all just jobless wastes of space with mental attitudes of a 15 year old (their ages range from 24-29!). I just don't know what to do anymore. I wish I could meet new people who share the same things in common with me but I think it's fairly difficult to make close friendships the older you get.

Can anyone relate to this?

are you me? Have i posted under another name???

I have one friendmaybe 2 friends-i mean proper friends at the moment because i got so sick of everyones **** and carry on like 16yr olds when they are 24-25. I've came to the conclusion that my own company is not that bad and if i don't go see one of my friend/s, i'll watch a movie, read a book, etc. It may sound boring but i got to tell you, it feels so much better than before.

If you lived in melbourne, we'd be right.

i can relate to that. last year i got very ill and couldn't go out much and was in a lot of pain. my friends didn't support or understand me at all. some of them thought i was being pathetic for not going out with them, eventually they stopped asking me if i wanted to go out somewhere altogether, even if it was to something i could do, like going to the cinema.

a big part of the problem seemed to be that i couldn't go out drinking any more, because of the medicine i was on. i realised how immature they are- they can't go anywhere without drinking and they're not really interested in any other activities.

also i've had problems with another friend. i do have one friend to whom i'm very close and live with. he's lovely and we get on great. when i first got to know him i had a boyfriend and was friends with his girlfriend too. since i became single, she's started to really dislike me and cause trouble. she seems to think i'm trying to steal him from her, even though i've explained 50 million times we are just friends. i can't do anything with the both of them now because she always creates a scene, and if i do anything with him alone and she finds out, it gets ugly.

four of us are meant to be at the park playing football and frisbee right now, but when she realised i was going she threw a tantrum and she's now in his room having an argument with him. it's so damn pathetic, i used to like her so much as well.

i'm moving away soon. i don't like the town i live in, and i've been saying to myself for ages that it's worth living here because of my friends. i'm not sure this is true now. the one really good friend i have here is that guy with the awkward girlfriend. the other two really good friends i have live in london now. anyway, i'm moving to london in a couple of months. apart from the guy with the girlfriend, i don't think i'll miss anyone much.

this post was unecessarily long, sorry

I they are mostly selfish. It seems like I am the one who goes through the motions of making the friendship work. I am the one who writes the emails, and makes the phone calls. It would be nicer if they went through more effort to maintain our friendship.

i have several friends, but i'm not 100% trusting of anybody. call me jaded, but i like it that way. i'm a very private person.
i don't feel like i really connect with a lot of people, but i'm sure everybody feels that way. if you think your friends are self-absorbed, it's probably time to look for ways to meet new people.