My negativity/anxiety is ruining all aspects of my life and i need some major change in the way i think if i'm ever going to look forward to or enjoy anything. Feeling like life is passing me by is getting a bit much recently

Try to see the positives in the negatives - if you can.
be more assertive
gain some self-esteem and confidence.
Dont allow your depression/anxieties to take control of yourself. you must fight it! Its hard but you can do it! Try setting small goals and achieving them, doesnt matter how big or small the goals are. DO activities such as art and watching films. Try getting out as much as possible. Get active as much as you can. relaxation techniques are also quite good at helping out anxiety levels.

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I am the hate you try to hide and I control you - Mr Self-Destruct.

hang out with more positive people. i noticed that when i am around negative people, i turn into that, and i don't like it at all.

try to expect only good things will happen. use your imagination.

do things that make you happy, i have the book "the woman's comfort book" by jennifer louden. for one thing, it says make a list of things you love. i did it, and it helped me. the book is all about self-nurturing.

growing plants, nature walks, and making your home a haven. paint a wall a color you love, get candles, plants, new art, whatever you like.

give yourself a nice view first thing in the morning, a flower, a picture you love.

give yourself treats, and when you make meals, act like you're making it for your best friend. make it pretty. use a nice tray, dishes, ect.

keep a journal, write down what bothers you

get a pin board and put up pics, quotes, art postcards, cartoons, and rearrange frequently.

create a personal sanctuary in one corner. place a fluffy rug next to your bed. get rid of everything you own that you hate to look at or haven't used in a year. i hope this helps you!

Smile more, and mean it.

Leave tips without expecting a thank you. Know that what you do for people will hit a welcomed spot with the right people. Know you've made a difference no matter what response you've had. Some people are having bad moments, or bad days, or bad lives, and your positive attitude will help, surely in small ways. Don't expect people to validate your positive view. Try to be authentic and learn to appreciate the small little things people do for you.

Turn a negative upside down and find the lesson in it. Every negative has a positive--this is a law of nature-- every wound has a hidden gift.

In time the universe will return the favors you do for others, but others seldom do a direct deed in return. Don't keep track! You'll be pleasantly surprised when something nice is done for you!!

Silently thank people for accepting you for who you are. Don't try to be cool for people. Know that to be human is to be vulnerable, but not stupid. Being cool means you must care more about what others think than what you yourself think. People never treat others better than they treat themselves, so treat yourself with respect and others with notice the difference.

We see what we want to see; look for the positive in others; appreciate the good in everyone, but don't expect everyone to be good all the time. There is a negative side to everyone and people choose whether to be good or not. Seek the people who choose to be good most of the time--much less trouble for everyone concerned.

Make a habit of NOT lying. Lying starts out as a conscious cover-up or justification, and eventually reappears as a self-destructive force.

Smile a lot, and be authentic. Smell the wildflowers!


"A kindness is most appreciated by the kind"
~~carefulcarpenter

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I gave love; you gave me a thistle;
We shared tenderness; then you ran away;
I planted a rose; and you blossomed;
I had fresh hopes; tho' winter froze them solid