I'm a little disappointed that you do not have a more positive response (or at least a small chuckle) to my parable of you, Soph, in the TV wrestling ring with the real retired TV wrestler, Greg Gagne. The parable has you fighting a match with this husband of your spiritual wife for her honour, or her right to have you as her spiritual husband, and your right to have his legal wife as your spiritual wife, or simply as a plain TV wrestling duel between conflicting ideologies. But the story could be much more than just this simple basic moral story of how humans should behave or the moral limitations of our belief in what Love is. It could show what Love could be.
This parable idea I've introduced could be realised as a video or play introducing the theme of 'Marerophilia'. The TV entertainment wrestling match between you, Sophia_ the Careful Carpenter, and his nemesis, Greg Gagne, could be the final scene of at least a three act play. Let's call the parable play: 'MAREROPHILIA' !!! It's your play and you should be the one to write it. Maybe, for once, there is no victor and no loser in the TV Wrestling Wring; maybe for once there is no violence, and everyone gains wisdom of what Love really is. People learn of Marerophilia through the parable of what happens in the spiritual showdown over a new kind of love in the Ring of Life.
Perhaps your parable's parallel meaning was too unspoken and a little too implicit for you ? It seems obvious that one third of the parable's prescriptive subtext of the interactions of the three persons concerned would be Gagne's motive and actions in feeling he was being wronged in his marriage by his wife being your 'spiritual wife'. The moral being that one shouldn't have or entertain the thought of having a spiritual wife who is already married. Or at the least, one should not consider a man's wife his own spiritual wife without the express O.K. of the woman's legal husband and the O.K. of the spiritual wife. (an O.K. from your legal wife was something you already said she gave you) (Do you have an O.K. permission note, or something from Gagne ? If so, please just ignore this humourous parable as one that would then be not inherently probable as a realistic story. )
And thus the parable presumes that Gagne, being the tough, non-spiritual macho wrestler, would want to kick your *** in the TV wrestling 'wring' for you having spiritually messed around with his wife behind his back. (I know, it seems that he doesn't care or love your spiritual wife because he is always out on the golf course and ignores her spiritual and relationship needs by hanging out with his rich friends too much.) So, that would be the prescriptive subtext of the TV wrestler's part in the extended metaphor of the parable.
The parallel meaning of the parable to real life, by M.G. sitting at ringside quietly crying, mascara running, while her husband turns the Careful Carpingter in to a limp, unconscious form on the mat, implies that she can not, or does not want to, do anything to try to alter the course of this conflict. She must feel powerless to do anything more than just witness this battle over her. Now, if you like, her character could take some pro-active role and enter in to the ring as an empowered participant. She could make an incredible impassioned speech---full of Marerophilia Love. We could have the parable having her do something that would reflect her role in real life way better. We do not have to be limited by the chauvanistic, 1920's silent film era, vaudevillian atmosphere of the TV wrestling conflict scenarios. If you'ld like we could update the parable to bring it in to the new millenium. It could be way more interesting and more meaningful. The TV wrestling wring needs to represent your spiritual Menage A Trois, your spiritual marriage as symbolically real as possible. This would make for a much more humourous and educational parable. Is this Synchronistic or What ???
The same goes for your role in the parable. If you would like to change it to something that reflects your real role in the real relationship, showing your own real feelings, etc., please let me know. The cause of Marerophilia needs this. You could give me a basic storyboard of images to pre-visualize the action in the ring---along with an outline of events and script you would like to see. We could show the entertainment wrestling writers what is really hip and loving nowadays.
You don't have to end up as the fallen hero splayed out face down on the mat. You do not have to be the vanquished spiritual wrestler who loved spiritually in vain. M.G. does not have to sit by the ring sobbing while her husband raises both arms over your lifeless body and yells out a giant Hooorah for doing away with the Careful Carpenter interloper.
Give me a little help here, Soph_ !!! I want this parable to portray your correct extended metaphors that will have you wanting to be a part of this parable's creation. Parables are full of unlimited options in their reflections, as is life itself.
It doesn't have to be knee-jerk mimicry and borderline stalking for you. This could be a true American Spiritual Iconic three act play that the entertainment wrestling producers would buy. Seriously. You and M.G. have inspired this sophisticated drama, the likes of which the trite, boring revenge and vendetta obsessed scenarios of TV wrestling format have never, ever seen.
Let's all stand up for 'Marerophilia' !