when you go to a therapist...

*cherries darling* · #1 09-30-2007, 03:38 PM

what's it like? I'm thinking of going, it's just I don't see the point if all they are going to do is let me talk 'at' them but not offer advice and input...I mean I have plenty of people to talk at if I need to...

Wildwoman · #2 09-30-2007, 03:47 PM

It depends. On the type of therapy and the individual therapist.

|marionette · #3 09-30-2007, 03:49 PM

my psychotherapist is great. she lets me rant and then when i'm done will suggest what she thinks the problem is and then gives me the opportunity to reply. i guess we mutually sort through things which i really like 'cause if she told me straight out what the problem is i would probably completely reject it (most of the time i don't feel like people 'understand' me-- i'm not very good at expressing my feelings.) she's sort of new age-y though.. doesn't like meds and stuff. she's turning into my mentor, haha.

i would suggest going to a therapist who's been recommended so you know what you're getting. if you don't know anyone who sees a therapist then don't settle for the first one you see unless you're comfortable with them/like their style of therapy. i've heard some horror stories.

Wildwoman · #4 09-30-2007, 04:46 PM

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Originally Posted by |marionette

don't settle for the first one you see unless you're comfortable with them/like their style of therapy. i've heard some horror stories.

Yes. This is definately one of those things where there isn't so much a 'right way' to do it, as there is a 'right way for you.' A particular therapist could be wonderful for someone else, but not a good fit with you.

mystars · #5 09-30-2007, 04:57 PM

It varies.

I had my last appointment with my ocd therapist on Thursday. It was tear-jerking. I've known her for 2 years and without her I feel like I never would have a) used a public loo b) moved-out of my parents house c) got married... She's wonderful.

At the begining is was tense and very starchy feeling, but having discussed everything over the course of the last 2 years we got quite close. On Thursday we went through my wedding pics and she gave me a good-bye hug and a big smooch on the cheek. She's like a suggorate mum or something. I think it's rare to get like that though and very un-proffessional tbh.