Specifically, let's pretend you know that your mom plans on leaving your dad to go back to her boyfriend from high school. And you're the only person in your family that knows this. And you don't want to hate your mom but everyday feels like a ticking time bomb and you're really starting to hate her.

So many people seem to get divorced when their kids are young. Do you think divorce is easier or harder to deal with if you're in your late teens?

I dunno, my parents split up when I was 12 because my father was having an affair with my godmother (who was 25 at the time). It was a pretty shitty age for them to do it at because it meant my parents became so absorbed in their own problems that they had no time for my sister and I and we basically went from being closeted middle class children to running wild with no parental supervision at all. I was nearly feral in my early teens. If it happens when you are young (but old enough to realise whats going on), I think its very bad news because it makes your parents falliable and disrupts your family structure at a time when you need it most. However when you are older, your parents are more likely to confide in you, expect advice, expect you to take sides, take a bigger share of the fallout etc etc and you have had longer to get used to the status quo. I have a friend who the day she went to uni, pretty much, her parents told her they were getting a divorce and that they hadn't been getting on for almost all her life but had stayed together for her til she went to uni- what a headfuck! Not only did she find her home was disappearing just when she'd started off at uni, but also she found out her parents had been living a lie all her life and SHE was the reason they'd been unhappy for so long....

I packed my things up and moved away to CT and never wanted to look back
Thats how i was dealing

My parents divorced when I was 14, but I pretty much always knew it was coming. They didn't ever seem to like eachother as far back as I can remember. I have never had a good relationship with either of them, and I pretty much hate both of them, but I don't think it's because of the divorce itself; it's more because of other shitty things they both did.

My parents divorced when I was 23 after 24 years of marriage, I found out that for the last 9/10 years of their marriage my dad had been cheating on my mum with someone who was 3 years older than me. He'd started seeing her when she was about 17.

I couldn't handle not knowing who my dad was, as he wasn't the person I thought he had been and I haven't spoken to him for the last 13 years.

I have a very close relationship with my mum now, but before all this happened I was a daddy's girl and didn't get on with my mum at all.

I think your parents divorcing whatever age you are is hard, but I found it harder to accept as mine had been together for so long, you just assume its gonna last.