Okay so I went to get my hair trimmed a few weeks ago, and my hair dresser told me that I have "spaghetti hair", I was like wtf...so she told me this part of my hair(the ends) has no body, nothing, just dead hair. She took the ends and just pinched and pulled and a ****load of hair came out.
I dye my hair a lot, so I just dyed my hair blonde(it was red), you know stripped it and everything, then bleached. So I knew that my hair would be completely ****ed up afterwards, but I just couldn't be red any longer. I went and evaluated my hair in the mirror afterwards and pulled on it, and chunks came out. So I trimmed it up myself and tried to get all the "spaghetti hair' out.

What I need to know is if anyone else has had this problem, and how do i fix it...HELP PLEASE!!!

Stop dyeing it so much. I used to dye my hair a lot when I was a teenager, repeatedly, and it broke off a lot. Bleaching literally broke most of the hair on my crown off. (It did grow back, but damn it was a bad look.) I basically had to cut it all off and start over, and I stopped dyeing it. I would suggest going to a hairdresser, getting a deep conditioning treatment (because it might help it feel softer), and getting a haircut to get all of the damage out. Using a deep conditioner daily may help with the texture as well.

when i bleached my hair too much that happened to mine.

try not to dye it for a while. get a shampoo & conditioner for dry/damaged hair. get a deep conditioning treatment to use once or twice a week. and get a leave in conditioner.

i'm really surprised that your hairdresser didn't recommend some products for you.

hot oil treatments might help too. and get as much of the dead/damaged part cut off as possible. same thing happened to me too.

Yeah you just need to stop dying it so much from now on. There's no point of dying it a nice color if it's going to be all fried and damaged.