My best friend is overly self conscience and sensitive about herself.. She had a child a few years back and went from a size 4 to an 11, hasn't been able to drop the baby weight.. On top of that while pregnant she began noticing facial hair growing.. She left it there thinking it would go away after the baby was born but it never did.. She started waxing it off and more would come in from places it wasn't before. Well, people have obviously noticed.. Her brother embarrasses her constantly in front of people telling her to shave her face, etc.. and in response to this she now always has her hair in her face, covers her face with her hands or never looks up at you to kind of shield it. Her personality has completely changed.. She used to be outgoing, fun, willing to try different things.. Now she shelters herself and runs around all day in pajamas, barely ever leaves the house. She really is quite beautiful and it pains me to see her like this.. Her birthday is coming up and she asked for a gym membership so I got that for her but I also want to get her something to get rid of the hair but I don't know what to get her that works and doesn't require laser removal. Any ideas? Do you think she'll be offended if I give it to her discreetly?

I didn't intend for this to turn into a novel. My apologies for the length.

idk what would work effectively except laser removal (and even then I don't know how well that'd work on fine hair, which I suppose it probably is?)

I think you should tread carefully with such a gift. If you're going to give her a gift like this then you need to do it sensitively. Tell her what you explained here - the change in her personality, the hiding of her face, how it upsets you to see her that way when she was so lively and confident before. Then she'd be a bit more likely to appreciate it, I guess.

No way should she consider shaving her face. Waxing is probably the best way forward.

I guess it's probably hormonal. Has she seen a doctor about it? If there's a hormone imbalance it might be possible to correct with some sort of medication? idk anything about these things but if it's affecting her as profoundly as you say, a visit to the doctor could be well worth it.

I've considered the hormonal imbalance but she has never spoken to me about it and I don't want to just bring it up so I'm a bit reluctant to do this but I think if I get something for her that will effectively remove it she will feel a little better about herself. I should do some research but I don't even know where to start.

i think it would be nearly impossible to give her something to solve the problem as a gift with out hurting her feelings a bit
what ever you decide on to give her i would give it another time
just as a i was thinking of you gift than for her b-day
either give it to her before or after the b-day stuff

and i agree its a hormonal thing
she prob needs to use a combo of bleach and either waxing or plucking to get it all taken care of i guess

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I have quite dark hair on the sides of my upper lip. I used to pluck it out, but now I think I'm going to go for the threading option. Quite a few beauty salons do it, and pretty cheaply. Maybe for her birthday you can book both of you in for a beauty day - get facials, massages, eyebrows and lips done? Then she won't feel quite so singled out.

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