I had a crush on this guy ever since i started college. i mean not a I WANNA BE WITH HIM type of crush, but i mean he
was a very good looking guy, and Im a very critical girl, and i would just stare and stuff. then the year following that (last year) I found out a good friend of mine was friends with him. i never thought much of it especially because i was going through a heart break and whatever he was just unreachable to me. so days after he actually started talking to me in class and msn. and asked me out on a date. I refused. my excuse was im busy. we kept on talking but id keep my distance. hes a great guy but too pretty for my taste...I dont like typically good looking preppy pretty boys. anyways he moved out of the city and now hes coming back for a few days and he asked me out and i agreed just because I felt bad. but I dont want to. it's not him, i wouldnt date anyone, didnt date anyone in a year and refused to date whoever came along during the past year and im probably gonna sound full of myself but there was some good enough guys that came along that i know a few of my friends would probably wanna take home. and it really wasn't the whole "they werent right for you" i mean, i confort myself saying that, but I dont even give them a chance or even am not that interested in getting to know them. I find dating awkward now. I went on a row with dating guys and guys after breaking up with my ex last summer, and now it's been months and months and I sometimes miss the whole "first date feeling" but it's almost as if I won't allow myself to go. I find it awkward, pointless, i talk too much, and not enough about revealant things, would never compliment anyone... aren't dates awkward?! I just want one to happen like that. as in be good friends and then just not plan out a date. i hate planning out, getting mentally prepared i hate hate hate it. I wish someone would just abolish that stupid procedure.
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I agree that dating is awkward and I think things like that should just happen instead of, "Do you wanna go on 7 weird dates and then evaluate our situation from there?"
I just think it's stupid to talk about the relationship unless something is wrong.
Maybe you'll get over it though. Like when you're out of college or something. But I wouldn't worry about it. It's not like you're a 35 year old wreck of a lonely woman.

Dating is awkward for everyone. I'm sure the majority of people would just prefer to skip the awkwardness of the whole procedure, but the reality is that it doesn't work like that. It's doubtful that you'll get anywhere in your love life by just waiting for someone to come along and "clicking". True, it happens to some people and it happens alot, but don't assume it's going to happen for you. I think you should just go on this date and endure the awkwardness for one night. Who knows? The experience might even bring you out of your no-date rut and change your attitude for the happier. Even if you don't hit it off with this guy, who cares, right? It'll all be over tomorrow and you probably wont have to see him that much anymore anyway.

One tip for acting confident on a first date is to imagine the guy as one of your friends. Pretend that this is a normal night out with someone you're comfortable with. When you're with a close friend, you can be yourself and relax. Once you relax, your personallity will shine through and I'm sure you'll find lots of interesting things to talk about. I know it's difficult, not everyone can operate this mentallity. The fact that he asked you out takes alot of strain off you in the sense that there's no pressure on you to entertain him. He's the one who has to impress you, enjoy it.

i hate dating. if it doesn´t click the first time, then it´s just unneccessary to go on dates.

pics pls.