My boyfriend told me he doesn't know if he loves me anymore, he said he was confused and just thinking about things. He also said he felt we had grown apart in ways.

I was upset about this, and I have been asking him if he still loves me since this happened, at which he tells me to forget about it and gets angry if I bring it up (not angry, violence or anything, just angry that I have braught this up) and tells me that he does love me, I ask him if he is still having these thoughts and he won't tells me and seems, again, to get pissed off at me for asking.

I don't know what to do we have been together for two years and in this period I have also done this to him/put him through my confusion. But it is getting to me. Just the things he said.

Like he said, should I just forget about it?

I don't know how you could just "forget" about your boyfriend telling you he doesn't love you anymore.

You mentioned that you've done something similar to him before. Well I highly doubt that he's "forgotton" about that. No matter how much you assure someone that things are all right, something like that will really effect the way you see someone. If your boyfriend really loved you, he would have been crushed by this and would never act the same way again. I know if someone did that to me, I'd never look at that person in the same way again. I'd dwell on the fact that they could stop loving me in the first place, and consider that our relationship can't be that strong if affections come and go.

How long has this been going on for? Can I ask you something? Don't you now feel awkward and inadequate when you kiss him? Even when you hang out with him? Wouldn't the knowledge that he's having doubts would surely make you concsious of what he thinks of you, whether he enjoys spending time with you, talking to you, being intimate with you? I don't know how anyone could share intimacy in this situation, so I assume ye haven't been acting like a proper couple at this time.

Of course you shouldn't forget about this. If you have any morality at all, it's impossible to ignore. You need to have a serious confrontation with your boyfriend about this, and get all ye're honest feelings out in the open. I know he gets angry whenever you bring it up, but you've got to put your foot down. He can't just say he doesn't love you then get angry when you want to address it. Maybe you could take him to the movies, or to dinner or something, and when ye get home, bring up the subject. Keep a calm head and listen to what he has to say, but at the same time get your points across.

Thanks for your advice, I admire your posts.

I know, the only reason I told him when I was having doubts was because I was feeling very guilty for even having these doubts, I didn't realise that doubts were natural and I should have just ignored them because I did become to realise that they were silly and meant nothing at all. But I opened my mouth and worried him, he was upset by them.

We managed to get over that, well at least I thought I did and that he did. (he is a very reserved person anyway and would probabnly not tell me if he didn't)

I don't feel awkward when we are intimate, I like it, and I truly love him. This has been normal. Or so I thought? I just hope that he feels the same.

When I ask him, I end up getting upset and he tells me that he does love me, but he just feels "weird", I said does this involve me and he said "No", as he is a private person and does not let on much I guess that this was a white lie.

I am not sure, at first this started off because I was having a bit of a go at him for not showing his feelings much, and then he came out with this. I thought it could have been to get me to shut up and to give me "a taste of my own medicine"?

I don't really know what to do. I don't want to "end it" but I do not want to be hanging around waiting to see if he loves me, life is too short.

well, why might he say you have grown apart? have you? do you flirt with other boys? could there be another girl? have you changed? maybe he is just confused and is having a funny patch! im sure if you give him time he will return to normal or be a complete dick and youll dump him
try not to worry too much

I had a scenario like this with my bf, except it was brought on by other issues that we'd been hashing out. Even after those issues had been exhausted and laid to rest, he was still having serious doubts and couldn't really tell me that he loves me. Eventually he got past that and things were normal again. So based on that experience of my own, here's my advice:

All I can suggest is that you bring it up in as calm and rational a manner as possible. Let him know you're not pressuring him to just say he loves you. I'm sure there can't be much comfort for you in him saying it just to pacify you, and it can't be pleasant for him to say something he doesn't truly feel. Ask him about other things that don't involve the L word. Does he still enjoy your company? Has he had thoughts of parting? Is there anything else in his life that's on his mind? Is some relationship issue (that you might have thought was cool and over with) still getting to him? Once you've had a chat about all of that, let you and him have some time to think about it all without discussing it. You'll probably find that everything settles back down and his doubts will fade away. But I think things wont change for the better if you don't both get that opportunity to air how you feel and where your heads are at.

Try not to let it escalate into an argument. That defeats the purpose. It needs to be a calm and caring conversation, otherwise it's not worth having and might drive you further apart. If you think it's going to turn into an argument, stop it immediately and propose to discuss it another time. I didn't follow my own advice on that one and it got pretty ugly. Thankfully we just quit talking about it and things repaired themselves.

And, no, you shouldn't just forget about it like he says. Surely he must know that would be nearly impossible.