okay, i love my boyfriend to bits, i really do

he's broken up with me over the silliest argument ever

what happened was:

my friend gave us a beer to share and he refused to share it. so my other friend gave me one to myself. my bf stole it off me and i refused to let him drink it so got violent til he gave it back. he did but after ages and i apparently really hurt him (choked him).

so he's broken up with me cos of this and my head is fucked, don't know what to do.
his ex girlfriend used to beat him up and i think this is why it's bothered him so much but i'm really not an aggressive person at all. it was just the principle of not letting him be a cunt.

off to see him today.
just need some help. can't really speak to friends about it cos they don't wanna take sides as they're all friends with him too.

dyou think i should give up if he still wont forgive me today? i really love him and i just think it's such a silly thing to end over.

From the sound of it, ye are both stubborn people, so I think if you really want him to see sense you're going to have to swallow some of your pride for awhile. The way I see it, you are not at fault at all here and have done nothing wrong (assuming that you've included every unbiased little detail, hmm?). But obviously your boyfriend doesn't think so. When you talk to him, firstly acknowledge that it was horrible of you to choke him and that you feel terrible about possibly evoking bad memories of his violent girlfriend. Assure him that it was your own stubbornness that made you act that way, you are not a violent person and that you would never dream of hurting him. When he sees that you're sorry, he'll begin to see things in your perspective and realise where he was unreasonable. Make sure you point out to him that it would be a shame to throw away a serious relationship over something so petty. And stress the pettiness of the argument.

I hate trying to get through to people like this, I always feel like such a tool. It's your boyfriend who should be apologising, not you. If he's actually serious about breaking up with you because of this, consider that he doesn't value your relationship enough and is not worth going back to. Do you love someone who doesn't appreciate you?

I bet if a guy choked his girlfriend, you wouldnt be saying she should be the one apologising to him! If a girlfriend choked me, or even tried to choke me, I would dump her arse with no hesitation

Why was he being such a beer nazi in the first place? Serves him right, the selfish brat.

yeah. if he loved you he would let you have the beer if you wanted it anyways.

my boyfriend would never try to take beer from me. he knows better!