The guy that I hadnt talked to in over 3 years, who I kept dreaming about and really wanted to contact him but everyoen said I shouldnt.

well i did anywya. I sent him a message online, and I decided th worst that could happen is he just ignores me..he wrote back and was really nice and seemed happy to talk to me.

He's in a relationsihp right now, and I"m honestly not looking to get back with him. I just want to know him again. Now I dont know if it was just a 1 time thing..or he's going to keep in contact. I"ll find out.

Im just very happy/satisfied and kind of in shock.

0Crash

I´ve missed my ex boyfriend recently. I know I can´t handle contacting him yet, though. But I get what you mean about wanting to know him again. I´m afraid that getting to know him again will bring up all these feelings or worse, make me realize that we are completely different and have nothing in common anymore. The times I have contacted him haven´t been great.

I´m glad yours worked out. It must be a relief to know there are no hard feelings.

Were you in shock that he replied to your online message or in shock that he has moved on?

in shock that he had replied to the message.

why wouldi be in shock hes in a relationship. hes always in a relationship,hes always dating somebody,or liking somebody. its what he does lol

0Crash

Your post read to me like you are not over him yet. Maybe I am wrong, but the "have been dreaming about him" part sent me that message. If that is the case, eventhough you may think you want to start afresh as friends, a part of you will still be craving that something romantic may come out of it in the near future, and when it doesn't, you may go back to feeling bad or even worse than before. Act with caution.

I think that those ones that were hard to get over are the hardest "ex"s to make "just friends" from. It is only when a voice or message from them will stop plastering a grin on your face and getting you excited , you may be truly ready to be only friends with them. And I am sure you know the difference between a grin from talking to an old friend whom you lost contact with and a grin from talking to an ex-flame who had not completely exited your system.

So are you trying to shush or ignore the part of you that is holding onto some little, vague hope? or are you REALLY over him? If it is the latter, then good luck and enjoy your refreshed friendship with him.

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