There's things left unspoken between my ex and i and he won't give me that much of a good reason why he broke up with me and says it's too soon to see eachother as friends and it's been about 21 days.I'm going to regret this but i'm going to go see him anyways; he told me not to and thinks that's crazy.I know i should respect that he doesn't want me there, but i can't, i'm going crazy; i need to see him.i'm taking the bus and am going to see him before he goes to work.am i being really selfish??i just need to let him know things left unspoken now and over the phones not working.i can't get myself not to and i know we're both going to be hurt; i must be a sadist or something.he's going to see me as a clingy person and blah blah blah.and i know it's not worth it; but i can't help myself.i just won't give him enough "time".I've cried enough times over the phone and tried persuading him to come over here; but he won't. should i just grow up?i like to take risks and this one is not so good.

if he's acting like that, do you really think he's even worth the trouble?

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he's very complicated and impossible to figure out sometimes. he says he needs alone time ( and goes to parties all the time) so yeah, wants to be alone my ass.we loved eachother so much and just one day he doesn't want me anymore.i feel like i need things said in my face; not over the phone. i'm going to be hurt cuz all i'm going to hear is the same thing. he and his friends will think i'm crazy after this and there'll probably be no chance of us together again.i just need to see his face. it's hard to be away from someone when you spent everyday with them.no,he's not worth the trouble; i just need some reality.

Do something for a while that gets your mind off of things. After a month of not calling him , See how he reacts and call him.

I do know what you mean about things being left unspoken. That's what hurts the most.

Don't go and see him. Trust me it will make the situation worse. It may seem impossible but i think you should really try and distance yourself. Don't phone him or contact him at all. It may be extremely difficult at first but it will get easier. It sounds to me as if *you* actually need some space more than he does. Perhaps some distance will give you some clarity on the situation.