save up the $$ to move and then you can go without him if he wont budge.


and if you chicken out and decide to stay with him, use your money for a major vacation to Japan.

love.. is really hard.
so is moving.

i commend anyone who moves far away on a whim (or at all). i keep telling myself i should move, but don't. and know i probably won't.

i think the only thing you can do is look down the line.
in a year, are you still going to really want to be out of Reno? 5 years? if the answer is always going to be yes, then you have to do it.

same thing with bf... do you want to still be with him in a year? 5 years? 25 years? i think you have to answer that one as objectively as human possible (and oftentimes, when we don't like the answer, and spend a long time bull****ting around it, in different ways). do you WANT to marry this one? because if not, it's all just going to end in a breakup, eventually. why not now? but if you know he's THE ONE, then you have to compromise with him about things, because he's your man for life.

he sounds like he's not being totally unreasonable about it thus far. but then again i don't know him, i'm divining all this from some txts in this thread.

sigh.
i was in a bad relationship that held me back for years. but i really did love him. eventually though... the love thing wasn't enough. and it was a long, mean, difficult, parting for a year until it finally broke.
if i could do it again, i'd have just ended it and moved when i knew that's what i wanted. but realistically, even if it happened to me all over again, i don't know if i could. because of the love/attachment to another person part. which ruins your logical thinking.

i don't think we can tell you anything you don't already know. you're a smart lass. on some level, you know what has to happen for you.
but lots of times, it's things you really don't want to do.

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Love is definitely not enough, as much as it ****ing sucks. If he's willing to flex a little and he might see himself out there, that sounds good. But you've hated Reno for quite a while, and I definitely don't see it getting any better.

well did you just spring this whole moving thing out of nowhere? or has he known for a while?

not being on the same page suxx

I feel you, I definitely don't wanna stay in this awful city forever and if my boyfriend and I are really in it for the long haul I just hope he'll be open for moving.

Good luck, where do you want to move to?