Originally Posted by vistavenus
Sometimes I don't know if he said that he doesn't want a relationship because it is true and end of story or because he is just scared...
Does it matter? Whatever his maladapted deal is it isn't something you need to deal with.
You aren't going to comfort/woo him into wanting a the same kind of relationship you want. He won't change unless he wants to - and trust me if you just keep on keepin' on the way you are then why would he want to?
If you want a relationship beyond this manipulative one (and I could be wrong but I get the sense from your post that you do) then you need to move on and away from this guy.