Getting Involved With 2 Guys Who Are Friends
I've known my boyfriend since we were 11. We were friends all throughout elementary, junior high, and high school. I had sex with him on occasion in between relationships but every time he'd ask me out, I refused. We have a tight bond, we share the same friends, and I was afraid it would ruin our relationship. Plus I've always seen him act like an asshole to all of his girlfriends. He works but he blows his money and his Dad pays his rent for him, he's been in and out of jail ever since he was a teenager (although he hasn't been arrested in a long time), he's self-absorbed, cynical, a drug dealer, and a thief. One time he and his friend scammed this idiot out of thousands of dollars and they blew it in a week, right around the time my car was breaking down and I was starting to save up for a new one. He gave me a $100 dollars and told me to go crazy and spent the rest of his half on video games and electronic BULL**** that busted three house parties later. But on a positive note - he's good looking, charming, funny, extremely affectionate, and deep down inside, he does have a good heart and I always see it. None of his bull**** has ever involved me - if he's being an asshole, he's being an asshole to someone else. Does it bother me? Not at all. Our relationship is OK. I'm not in love with him at all but I'm not crazy about him and sometimes I regret going out with him and I know I can do better.
Well this guy Scott started working at my job who I adore. He's a stereotypical hot guy, he's got the face of someone who looks like they'd be called a tool or a meathead but he's the opposite. He's kind of a dorky indie guy inside which I love cause that's my type. He's like the guys I've always gone for except he's not an asshole. I clicked with him right away. My best friend lives in the same town he does so I ended up running into him one night at a bar and we hung out. We went back to her place and lost our minds and we've been hanging out ever since. We made plans to see a couple of bands next month which is exciting since my boyfriend hates the bands I want to see. The only downside to him is he's really outgoing and fun but he can come off really serious sometimes. He had a lot of issues with his girlfriend who was his first love and dumped him and he took it pretty hard. There's something though that tells me that he likes having fun with his friends and then puts on the serious face with the girl he's going out with. I don't like that at all.
So right in the middle of all of this, his friend is hired and starts working with us - Brendan. He's the opposite of Scott and the first thing I thought is that he was an asshole and he's going to tell Scott to not waste his time on me. He seemed so arrogant and full of himself when I first met him. I wouldn't call him outgoing but he'll go out. He's kind of reserved and seems a bit on the conservative side. I got the impression and that hasn't and will never be satisfied with a woman, no one is ever good enough for him. I got that when I started talking to him but the more I talked to him the more interested I became in him. He's kind of a challenge - he has an attitude that kind of rejects you but embraces you at the same time. The other night I met him, Scott, and their ****** bag friend at a bar down the street from my friend's house. Their friend had a fight with his girlfriend and he was all drunk and stupid and Scott spent the night calming him down and then drove him home. I ended up walking around with Brendan for a while after the bar and got to know him and ever since then I've been talking to him all the time and hanging out after work. I feel like my family and friends would love him. He has that 'marriage material' aura about him (I'm not crazy enough to even think about that but he's got that 'Mr. Perfect' thing going on). It bugs me because I've never been interested in those kind of guys but for the first time, I'm drawn to it. Plus when I'm ranting and raving in my drunken stupor I can see he's still paying attention to me. And the fact that he carried me up five flights of stars because my friend's apartment has no elevator. I'm forever grateful.
People at work have told me both of them are talking about me. They've both asked me on different occasions if I had a boyfriend and I told them both the same answer - that I wasn't sure and I'd get back to them on that question. Both of them have tried to put the moves on me but I've found a way out of it. What I'm waiting for is when is it going to start getting awkward? It's getting awkward already when I hang out with both of them at the same time or they're together at work. They're both really good friends and I don't think they would let a girl come in between them. But they must be aware they're both talking to me. The other night they both texted me about 10 minutes apart from each other. Were they sitting on a couch together saying 'maybe she'll tag team us?'. I just don't understand if they realize this or even if they care?
My advice to myself would be to **** them both and wind up hurting feelings and have them write me off as a ****. But I actually like them both and I'm sick of going around in circles with my boyfriend and I want to **** at least ONE of them.
Last edited by CourtneyBee; 11-25-2009 at 11:21 PM.