I don’t get why he just can't tell me the fucking truth.

I’ve been seeing this guy- let’s call him Frank. Well, I met Frank about a year ago.. Two weeks after my ex boyfriend and I broke up completely. I was pretty distraught about it, since I really did care for him. Anyway, so I met Frank and we got on great. We start spending a lot of time together. We would talk on the phone every night until 6 am.

However, my main problem with him was that he was overly jealous about my ex Boyfriend – (call him) Matt. He even started fights with him. He accused me of still having feelings for him. He kept bring up the fact that I hung out with Matt more than him. Okay- first of, Matt would actually take the time and come over my house… Plus the fact that he has the same friends as I do. It’s also ridiculous and half because at that time Matt had a girl friend. Frank- he never took the time or effort to hang out more with me and stuff. I really made the effort to… but he was just so anal about Matt and my friends and all that.

The thing is Frank’s in the army. So that summer he had to go to some boot camp training thing. Before he left he told me he really loved me and all that lovey dovey Bull shit that I believed in. He told me that he didn’t want to officially ask me to be his girl friend because he thought I was going to find someone else and cheat on him. Wanting to prove him wrong I told him I won’t meet someone else or at least I won’t look for anyone.

Oh did I mention that he has this crazy ex GF stalker? Yeah, so he left. His ex girl friend form 2 years ago keeps harassing me on line… on mypsace. Xanga. Calling me. She was just a real bitch. Anyway, so I keep my promise. I spent my WHOLE summer single and alone wondering if he, frank, was even thinking about me. I turn down 7 different GREAT guys for him.

So anyway. He comes back and calls me up. We reconnect again. But then when school started back up… I guess we sort of drift apart. Then before he leaves for Colombia for winter break (He’s Colombian) he finally notices me again. I thought it was pretty cruel of him because I was just getting over him too.

He comes back from Colombia a few weeks later and he decides that he wants to spend more time with me. So we hook up… I hear rumors about him having a girlfriend and that she’s pregnant. I chose to ignore the rumors even though he told one of his good friends it was true… (Within the few months we were apart- he got into this whole Colombian pride thing) Yeah. He kept talking about Colombian stuff I wasn’t really interested in. Not to mention the fact that I really suck at speaking Spanish. I guess he gave up on me because out of no where… He stops NOTICING me and then boom he has a girl friend. It was this Colombian chick that transferred in.

So he breaks up with her after like 2 weeks… and he starts getting with me again. Did I mention he accused me of ignoring him? W-T-F! I’m sorry- but I don’t make it a habit to hit on other people’s boy friends. He didn’t even tell me about her or anything.

I don’t know what he really wants. He knows he could get the fucking sex no problem form me. I’m not the type of girl who wants the whole ‘I love you’ deal. What I hate is that he pretends to fucking care and love me… when he probably just wants to get laid. I don’t get it. Does he REALLY care? Or Am I just some fucking cheap slut he likes in between the people he wants as a girl friend? Because I- apparently can’t be faithful to him… despite the fact that I haven’t had anyone else since I fucking met him. And I’m god damn sorry I’m not Hispanic and that I can’t fucking speak Spanish. I’m sorry that I DON’T hang out with his friends and that he can’t stand my best guy friend (matt).

I just don’t get WHY I can’t be good enough to be his girl friend. EVER. But then he always comes back… Whenever I start thinking it’s over forever…he comes back.

If he really wanted to be with you, he would be. Especially as (I'm guessing) he knows how much you like him. To be honest it sounds like he's spent the last year messing you around and finding excuse after excuse not to be in a relationship with you. Not to mention seeing other people as well.

My ex did this to me for about two years after we broke up. And I let him because I still loved him and I told myself that if he was coming back to me again and again, it meant he loved me too, deep down, despite everything that had happened before. The truth was, it was because I let him, which meant I was the easy option when he had nothing better to do. I could have saved myself years of trouble by telling him to fuck off after the first time we split up. Seriously.

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Why do we even have that lever?

i agree.

he's fucking you around non stop. he clearly doesnt want to be in a relationsip with you. it does sound like hes just using you for sex. if i were you i'd stop wasting my time and find a guy who treats you like he actually likes you

(it's Mitchy with my old user name)

Anyway. I think you guys are right.

^^ That's what i was thinking.

i agree with *Band Aid*. stop wasting your time with this loser and go find someone who's worth it.