be bullshit?
well first off. i have a dad. and it turns out that my step dad was not lying a year ago when he told me that my loser mother lied about it being him that molested me, it was infact my grandfather on that side. go ahead take your cheap shots i can take it. because when i asked him (my real dad) about it he told me the same thing. why my mother would lie about that is beyond me and is both cruel and sickening. and i was fed a bunch of other bs about this man and found out a few things i didnt know. like my grandparents LIED to him and said my mother and i moved to a different state for one. he told me he always wanted me and never stopped wondering about me. said when i was born i was the light of his life. said i would wait up for him every night after i got to where i could walk to see him and play with him before bed. and my gut instinct says he isnt lying. and it isnt often wrong and i am not trusting of anyone in the least so im going to trust it. i feel so great. like amazing. i have a dad. never been able to say that. he isnt very well learned and he is a bit redneck, he likes country music and nascar but whatever, i have a fucking dad!
and even better i have aunts and uncles that live so close by, i have a younger sister in oklahoma named shana, and a niece named brooke. this is such a big deal because my whole life ive been afraid that when my grandparents pass i really wont have any close family ties with anyone because i dont forsee my junky mother making past the age of 55.
it will be a while before im ready to meet him, or call him even though he gave me his number, but its so cool that i can talk to him over myspace.
whats sickening is that a lot of the stories i was told about him when i was a baby are not true, and i believe this because he fessed up to what was true. and he admits that he was young (17 years old) and in and out of trouble with the law and probably in no position to raise a child, but he never wanted to give me up and he never stopped loving me.
omg. i have a fucking dad. im still like omfg.

oh god your situation is sooooooo like mine! apart from my grandfather hasnt molested me he took care of me ( although i always feel uncomfortable in his company now ).
but yeah, its so weird when you find out you have family that you didnt even know! My dad lives down the road and has done since my mum with pregnant with me and yet he has never spoke, in 21 years. If he sees me comming hel cross the road to avoid, yet he sends me texts and emails saying he thinks about me everyday bla bla bla.
He also has a son who is really my half brother,and a few years younger than me. We have spoke on the net but nothing more. His mum is a whore who i hate and if she comes anywhere near me i will punch the living shit out of her but she has yet to come close.

so do you and ur dad have a good relationship now?

yes. im hanging out with him tonight. he is really cool. i already feel like he's my dad.

i've been in the same boat you have.

my mother made my father out to be an irresponsible, abusive, alcoholic, drug-addict who wanted nothing to do me and even told me she'd received phone calls from him saying he was going to kidnap me and some shit.

i've come to find that my mother cheated on him and when he was paying child support, everytime he would come to get me (clean, sober and sometimes with my grandparents) she would call the police saying he was drunk and threatening her. or she would send me off with my aunt and when they got there, tell them i was gone for the weekend. i also found out what happened to all of my presents from him that went missing when i was young. my mother told me "they broke" and she actually returned them for the money, which she spent on herself. he was in his early 20s and had no idea what to do, so he quit his job, moved away, and stopped paying child support.

when i was 17, i met up with him and he apologized for not fighting for me when he should have. he probably would've lost anyway because she got my aunt to be a witness that he'd beat her. we're much closer now and he's been more of a parent to me in the last couple of years than she's been my entire life.

so i hope you two get close and whatnot. my dad is one of the greatest people i had to miss out on when i was young.

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that's such great news! I'm happy for you!

I can't BELIEVE that a mother could lie to her child like your mothers have done.