Ok so anyone here who knows me is well aware I am a paranoid chick....but does anyone here get irked when their b/f chats with girls online? I am not talking about trying to pick girls up or hook up with them, but just msn msgs/myspace, etc that sound a bit too "cutesy", not flat out sexual. I know I shouldnt let things like this bother me so much. I was hoping some of you can tell me how you feel if your b/f does this or is this just more of my jealous paranoia?

Jealousy is pretty normal....everyone feels it at some point, even if they say they don't. But also keep in mind that being too possessive usually ends in tragedy. Just because he's your boyfriend doesn't mean he should cut off communications with half of the world's population.

Honestly, I would take it as a sign that you chose well.....your man is appealing to a lot of people....not just you.

Thats a really good way to look at it, thanks! BUT any advice on how to get over insecure feelings about it all, feeling like every girl is a threat?

didnt you have a whole massive thread about this before?

about him declaring his love for someone else through email, and you snooped and found out about it? are you still snooping, and is he still declaring his love for other girls?

i dont mean to be mean, but your relationship sounds sort of screwed

oh girl Ive had tons of threads like this. THIS time though it isn't about email, its public messages on myspace. And your right in tons of ways my relationship is screwy but we have been together 3 years now and things have gotten a lot better, its just my massive jealousy rearing its ugly head YET again. I wish I had confidence! He has been really good to me lately, showering ME with love letters, spending every night together, etc. He really is trying.

oh and no he is no longer declaring his love for other girls. I just mean simple messages.