Me and my boyfriend were together for 2.5 years and broke up 2 months
ago after months of not getting along. We never stopped contact.
In fact we decided to take things really slow and try again.
I thought we were doing really well into getting to know each
other again and getting close again. This week alone we got
together 3 times, he calls at least 4 times daily and we email
daily. Well...............I then find out he is on a dating site
he registered for after we split and that he has been talking
to a few girls on there............STILL, even after we decided
to try to work things out and agreed to not see other people WHILE
we are working things out. (a friend recognized his pic on there
and tipped me off in case you wanna know how I know about the
site). I am distraught. I don't know why he is still on there.
Is he still keeping his options open? Is he waiting to see if
we work it out? How should I proceed? I was so confident things
were going well. He says I love you before we hang up the phone,
HE is the one who initiates the calls and mails. He said he
wants us to work. Just last night we spent 10 hours together. I am so confused. What do I do?? Is he playing with my head
or what the hell is going on!?

do not shit your pants over this. if its bothering you greatly just be all casual like "SOOOO, i heard your were on ______.com. are you looking to date other people?" and don't get shrill about it just act like you're asking him if he'd like pickles on his sandwich. and then he can explain and if it sounds reasonable you can be like "oh okay cool" and be glad you asked and if it sounds like bullshit you can be like "oh okay cool fuckoff" and be glad you asked.

I wouldn't try to work things out in the first place. But, in your case, I doubt he even takes that site seriously. I mean, who actually does?

So relax, honey.

Thats just it thought, I don't really want to confront him about it cause half of our problems have been due to my jealousy. I just want to try to believe that nothing is going on (HARD TO DO).....BUT I just can't imagine why he is telling me he wants us to work, spending so much time with me, etc....I am guessing knowing him that he likes the attention on there. I dont think he has actually met up in person with anyone and I DO want him to stop. UGH this just scares me.

Can you tell me why you wouldn't try to work things out though?