I have a friend who's constantly comparing herself to others, including me. She's always asking about personal stuff like my personal finances, my grades, my sex life, my weight/body/diet etc., and compares it to her own. She does it to others too. She's kind of a perfectionist and I think she has a need to feel like she's always better than others in some way, like if somebody's doing better than her at uni she'll be like "yeah, but she doesn't have a job and I do", and so on.

It really bugs me and now I don't want to tell her anything because I feel like I'm being measured and examined the time. She knew I was getting exam results this week; but I didn't want to tell her what I got and I'm pretty sure she's pissed about it. She has also asked me if I'm mad at her because apparently I've been "distant".

I'm not really mad at her, I'm just sick of having to talk about things I'd rather not every time I meet her
and I have no idea how to explain that without causing drama. THe last thing I want is drama.

Halp.

just tell her there are some things you prefer to keep to yourself
just because

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Lie? If she doesn't find out, you're sweet, and if she does you can back into a corner and lash out with "I did it because of yoooooooo you make me feel so small I just wanted to protect myself!".

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tell her you got 100% in everything ever.

no but I had a friend exactly like this, and I would basically avoid telling them things. funny thing was I'd beat him on everything relating to school work, like once he beat me on one test and I heard him telling all our friends not about the mark he got, but the fact he had beaten me on it.

and then he'd beat me at some athletic things. but that was it.

and I basically phased him out of my life? for many reasons, not just that, but it's much nicer without him?

Yeah I don't want to phase her out of my life though. I like her apart from the competitiveness and the prying and the princess syndrome.

I've tried to just be vague but she doesn't get it. She just thinks I'm being "distant" and asks even more, and thinks that I'm mad at her. Gah.

I might lie a bit more. It's not a nice thing to do but I don't like it when people know more about me than I want them to. Makes me feel invaded